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Major discussion questions for this post:

Is OP saying that consent is not needed in sexual encounters?

Why is framing consent as “sexy” potentially problematic?

What pitfalls can you imagine could come from framing consent as a bonus that makes sex more enjoyable rather than a basic requirement for any sexual encounter?

No, you didn't. You looked into it. Best case scenario you read other people's research and trusted their methods and citations. More likely, you read a few opinions and figured that was good enough.

Research is about trying to prove tour hypothesis- the thing you think is true - wrong. It requires understanding and testing out the alternatives. It assumes you're missing something. Research examines things from multiple angles.

But no one says "I looked into it" because it doesn't sound as official. It's admitting that your knowledge on the subject is limited to what you looked at.