nonsharer affirmations

welcome !

this is a sideblog for nonsharer-specific selfship affirmations. you are loved deeply and exclusively by your f/os — this blog is just here to remind you of that fact. ❤︎

hi!

hi, anon!

-🐾💮

if your f/o is seen as the “resident smokeshow” within their media, it’s alright to be uncomfortable with the remarks that the fandom makes towards them, and your f/o knows that what others say about their appeal is nothing compared to the love you harbor for them. your f/o wants only your affection and would not hesitate to push their other “admirers” away — you are the only person who they will ever need, and anyone else’s “thirsting” over them means absolutely nothing to them (in fact, they’re quite uncomfortable with it).

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

I sort of just reblogged it without reading the pinned post first I'm very sorry!

okay thank you /nf ofc have a good day / night / timezone !!!!!!!! :))))

if you’ve just recently figured out that you’re not open to “sharing” your partner(s), that is totally valid! your f/o(s) may have been feeling it too — the need for a declaratively exclusive relationship between you, with less prying from the outside world. as your boundaries change, your f/o(s) will always be there to support you, and will never judge you for needing to make a change, no matter how big or how small it may be. others need to respect your boundaries too, and if they don’t, your f/o(s) (and i) will be ready to attack.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

your interpretations of your f/os and the interconnectedness of their identities are valid. no matter your reason for believing in their shared soul — spirituality, personal comfort, or even that it just feels right — you have a total and complete understanding of this side of your f/os. the special ways in which you see their essences and cores are unique and special to you (which proves that you know more about them than anyone else!)

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

hi, all.

i just want to say that i’m sorry for my absence. yes, i still exist, and yes, i am fine. i have been in a horrible headspace lately with a lack of motivation and physical sickness, both of which i have luckily (mostly) recovered from. to all of the requesters whose suggestions haven’t been written and published yet: sorry about that! those are my top priority at the moment for this blog and i am working on getting at least the majority of them answered today so that i can open the askbox back up asap.

thank you for your patience.

(ie me who has a mix blog of otherkin and self shipping since had to delete mine due to issues with doubles and or can't handle the competitive vibe the community gives off at times..).

if you can’t be open about selfshipping for any reason or aren’t comfortable talking about your love for your f/o, that does not make your connection with them any less valid or real. your f/o knows you love them, and (hopefully) you know that your f/o loves you the same. all that matters is that you and your f/o are happily together — if you don’t feel a need to publicize your relationship, that’s absolutely fine, and it doesn’t make your f/o feel any less adored by you. and anyone who sees you as less for it can get hit by a comically large hammer.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

if your f/o is “canonically taken”, that doesn’t have a single effect on how they feel about you. no amount of ship content will ever change the fact that you are the only one for them; they themself do not understand how others can believe otherwise. no matter what their relationship is with their “canon” partner actually is — friends, enemies, or even strangers — they love you, and only you. no amount of content from their source is going to change that.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

hi, anon! thanks for the ask.

if your f/o is popular within your fandom and many doubles exist, your f/o still sees you as their unique lover in a sea of meaningless admirers. they’re a bit like a celebrity, while their other fans and doubles are akin to paparazzi. it’s true that they’re insanely admired — it only makes sense that there are some people out there who wish they were in a relationship with them. however, that doesn’t mean that they’ll ever choose another person’s fleeting yearning over the bond you’ve created. you are the only one for them, no matter how many other people wish that they could be theirs.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

no matter how your f/os present themselves to others, they will always possess a unique love for you. those who doubt that fact simply do not understand how deeply connected you are and are not close enough with your f/o to know the range of their true emotions. as for those who don’t believe they’re capable of a healthy relationship with you, they haven’t seen the affection you share for one another. nobody can judge the both of you without being a part of your relationship — which they aren’t.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

do not put your f/o’s name in the tags when you reblog my posts. special blog-specific tags that do not contain their name are fine!

i really do care about your situation and read and put thought into every ask that comes in, but if you are sending in a vent or rant without specifically requesting advice or an affirmation, i am going to have to ignore it as per rule #4.

Cause I just asked for support and encouragement on this one ficto subreddit, simply cause I’m so terrified of one ship with my f/o either suddenly becoming canon despite it never have been, or the devs just have my f/o flirt with that one character.

Cause this commenter said that I should just be happy for him, said they can’t help with it because they can’t shut the game down blah blah, just things like that. I mean I know no one can shut the game down that’s not why I even asked, plus I just can’t suddenly like that ship or be happy when the other character is downright just using him, manipulates him and is just so toxic overall. I mean it’s why it’s gotten so much backlash before because fandom hated how it eroded his agency, so there’s nothing good about it.

So that person’s comment just brought me down tbh, and it just doesn’t help when I’m already feeling so worried🥺

hi, anon! thanks for the ask. that commenter is very insensitive — whether or not they had ill-intent, it’s pretty clear that they didn’t really put much care into trying to help you. not to introject but “just be happy for him” made me want to hit something, that pisses me off severely (/nmay). your feelings about this situation are valid. what i can offer is:

no matter how it goes, your interpretation of your f/o is objectively correct. as a selfshipper, you are the singular person who understands your f/o the most deeply. please do not forget that — canon does not affect your f/o, your feelings and the way you see them as a person do. the way you feel is more important to them than anything.

this feeling is mutual between your and your f/o. they would not like to be paired with a manipulative and toxic person either.