you can call me Queerium Webster

That I’m a ‘straight invader’, 

That I’m ‘going through a phase’

That I’m ‘really gay’ and ‘suffering from internal homophobia’

That what happened to me ‘wasn’t conversion therapy’

That my identities are ‘disgusting’ and ‘a threat to children’

Examples of who it was a phase for to ‘prove’ it’s a phase for me as well

That if I don’t ‘admit’ most if not all people like me are ‘gay with internal homophobia’ gay children will hate themselves for years thinking they’re my identities instead of gay

That the rape and murder of gay people is my fault

That I ‘steal resources’ from gay people

That I’m lying about being sexually assaulted ‘for attention’ as my identities are ‘attention seeking’ so I shouldn’t be trusted

That if I go to pride I’m ‘invading’ a space that doesn’t belong to me

That every bit of abuse that happened to me because of my identities either ‘didn’t happen’ or ‘didn’t count’ as oppression 

‘Why do you want to be oppressed so badly?’

People have said the trans flag should be ‘burned’ when seeing it at rallies and tried to get the bi and trans flags removed because they ‘don’t belong’.

I’ve seen the Pulse shooting used to shame ace and aro people. I have been told due to my ‘bi privilege’ it was ‘not my tragedy to mourn’.

Bisexual contingents frequently get booed at pride parades for ‘invading gay spaces’. Visibly bi people get shouted at and told to ‘go home’. Bi and trans people perceived to be in ‘het’ relationships get told ‘get away from our pride!’ 

I was accused of being ‘divisive’ for planning things for Bi Visibility Day by a cis gay man who then proceeded to tell me how trans people ‘didn’t belong’ in the community. I see ace and aro people get shamed for having their own events and then told they ‘don’t belong’ in the same breath.

I was gathering some links for my sister and I thought folks here might find some of these useful.  Most of the links come from tumblr posts bytrans women and amab non-binary folks, and I figured they know what they’re talkinga bout!  

Shoes

Zappos (it’s really easy to get shoes, try them on, and return them, they go up to size 20) 

Eleanor Anukam: Luxury shoes in larger sizes

Samanta Shoes

Long Tall Sally: clothes and shoes for tall ladies

Full Beauty: up to size 16

Shoebuy.com

Makeup tips: 

Makeup tips for trans women 

List of tutorials for beginners

Swimwear: http://www.thelingerieaddict.com/2015/03/trans-swimwear-part-one-trans-women.html Undergarments:

Advice for trans women on bras, breastforms, and underwear Lingerie for trans women

Voice: Easy steps to voice feminize! (YouTube) Finding Your Female Voice (Free Workbook PDF) NY Speech & Voice Lab: voice feminization Shortcut to female voice Misc

Tips on presenting more androgynous 

Please know that I will never expect you to drop everything to answer my messages.

Please know that I understand you might only have come to Tumblr to decompress, not to talk.

Please know that I understand you have a RL that is stressful and you don’t always have the energy to respond.

Please never feel pressured into answering me just because you were “online”.

“Disagreeable opinions” ….?

Didn’t know “I hate trans women because they are really men who want to kill/rape real women and invade female only safe spaces” was just a disagreeable opinion but okay….

Look if you don’t respect trans people, you’re transphobic. You’re making the community unsafe. So why would we want you there?

like soooo many exclusionists partook in the Great Bihet Discourse Of 2014, and while they won’t openly express their disdain for bi people (especially bi women tbh) any more because it doesn’t look good politically, all it takes is one bi person who they personally dislike in order for them to revert back to their ‘bi people are Straight, actually’ garbage.

their acceptance of bi people is 100% conditional and 100% based in respectability politics. see: how nice they are to bi exclusionists vs at the same time spewing explicit biphobia at bi inclusionists (and telling us we’re only welcome in the lgbt community because we face homophobia, since biphobia is Fake Oppression)

like, not Every exclusionist is like this and there are bi exclusionists, but this is a pretty fucking prominent pattern in their community and it is very rarely if ever addressed. and that’s part of the reason why even if i felt like ace people weren’t lgbt, i would never call myself an exclusionist.

Iceman isn’t doing good in sales please support this comic

it’s about a gay man written by a gay man with cover art by a gay man

the writer Sina grace is a really nice guy he retweeted my tweet about needing money to escape my abusive household

in the comic industry digital sales are not counted please go to local comic stores or book stores and buy a physical copy!!!