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The problem is that this update is really bad for people with social anxiety or, heck, people who don’t necessarily have a disorder but simply aren’t the greatest in social situations (in other words, about 98% of tumblr users).

See, for a socially awkward person, it takes a lot of effort to engage in a conversation. This goes for both online and IRL. You go into it not quite certain what direction you’re intending for it, don’t know what to do if you find yourself with nothing to say, don’t know how to end a conversation, or even when it’s supposed to end. When you’re in it, you’re in it for the long haul.

With replies, that wasn’t a problem. If someone I followed, say, posted a selfie, I could just comment, “You look cute here!” Get out what I wanted to say, and not worry about how to continue it. It was simple, it was quick, and it didn’t require a large commitment.

Instant messaging isn’t like that. When there’s instant messaging in place, then when I get a message, it’s often intended to open a conversation - and in the cases where it isn’t, I don’t know how to tell the difference, so there’s another difficulty right there, the risk of assuming this is the opening of a long conversation thread than a one-off remark.

I need those one-off remarks. I need to be able to answer the question of or give a compliment to the people who post on my dash without having to prep myself for a full-on chat. And the tumblr staff doesn’t get that, and refuses to listen to the people who try to explain it.

calum being, for lack of a better metaphor, a human furnace

 he’s a world-class snuggle bug; always making sure you were comfortable and cozy in his arms as you slept peacefully within them

constantly looking for opportunities to cuddle (watching a movie: plucking you from your seat and placing you in his lap, grocery shopping: holding your hand or securing his arm around your waist, etc)

his lips always pressed to your skin no matter what position: your neck, your shoulder, or stomach

half the time you cuddle naked, the skin on skin contact too delicious to resist

waking each other up with head

calum talking in his sleep

him asking for a back or scalp massage 

preferred position: calum lying on his back, drawing you closer until your head and shoulders are resting on his chest and he is able to wrap both arms around your body while you burrow into his neck and place your freezing hands over his bare chest

‘him coming home late often and not bothering to wake you; instead he just slides in next to you and smiles softly to himself as you mold your body to his in your sleep

sitting on his lap while he scrawls out lyrics he thought of on a whim, you softly nipping at his neck while he groans at you to stop teasing

resting his hands on your ass always, giving occasional squeezes or playful spanks

whispering sweet nothings into each others ears just to see the recipient of the compliment blush

a new tattoo.

to be kissed.