the anon about feeling validated by support from tmes has me returning to thoughts ive been wondering for a while: i am tme, and i want to support trans women more, but am afraid of falling into an unintentionally harmful mentality. kind of like the way men act as 'white knights' towards women, or the whole 'white savior' mentality. i dont know what the equivalent would be towards trans women. ive been trying to listen, learn, and share online, but i struggle to make friends thus do not participate in local queer communities (if there even is one by me?) and, ive been rather oblivious to the extent of transmysoginy until recently. do you or any of your followers have thoughts on what tmes can do to uplift trans women, and where any lines might be in terms of letting our privileges get in the way? is there any idea on what is the healthiest way to support trans women online and in-person, without creating unhealthy dynamics due to tme privilege? especially since i want to be a participant in-person local communities and activism later. personally, am going to start online and get a grasp of whats best, and prioritize/trust the voices of trans women. im sorry if any of this is confusing or ignorant, either way my current priority is listening, learning, and uplifting my sisters however i can, and however they all need and want.
what I do want to say right now, however, is that we don't exactly have a lot of genuine allies in general right now, and at the risk of saying some words I'll eat, I'd rather have loads of clumsy allies who are genuinely trying (albeit ones who are open to feedback and criticism!!!!) than a small few perfect ones who are afraid to act lest they misstep