Music rules my mind

(I am certain this anon is writing about THIS ADDITION I made to @mousidy's original post)

OK anon, I'm going to respond as though this is in good faith for everyone reading over your shoulder in this public forum.

Here's my question - what are you doing with "being upset" at a few individual trans women on the internet? (As I tell my 3yo, feeling something is always fine, but how you act on it may not be) Are you feeling peeved in your own home and then going about your life? Are you making lists of "bad" trans women and their "bad" tumblr followers that they've "misled" with transfeminism and leading efforts to run people off the website because they wrote a few posts you disliked? Or sending people anonymous nastygrams to feel tall for a few minutes?

Any individual person has the capacity to be transphobic to any individual other person, so sure, you can be hurt by someone's vent post. A trans woman could be nasty to you individually, and everyone has a capacity for harm. But you have to understand! You have to make the cognitive and empathetic leap to realize that some of the pain that trans women express talking about trans men is because THEY EXPECTED BETTER OF US BECAUSE WE ARE ALSO TRANS, AND THEY HAD TERRIBLE ENCOUNTERS WITH SOMEONE THAT MADE THEM DOUBT WE WERE ON THE SAME TEAM. It's not "trans men bad," it's "what the fuck, we expected better of you." Rather than a personal attack on you, I invite you to think of it as a reason to try harder. That's why I wrote I was most devastated when my bi cousin rejected me - I had counted on her knowing better. Trans women are also counting on us knowing better.

While we're listing things that aren't transphobic, here are some more:

It is not transphobic to speak out about how trans women suffer most in almost every area of public life.

It is not transphobic to seek to prioritize aid to those members of our community that are most vulnerable, and that means black trans women specifically.

It is not transphobic to inquire if a trans space has trans women on the board or in any leadership positions, and it is not transphobic to conclude that a space that ONLY caters to/is reflective of trans men needs to reevaluate its priorities.

It is not transphobic for trans women to prioritize friendships and relationships with each other, and women across the board do not owe us anything.

It is not transphobic for trans women to develop a framework of language that describes their own experiences. Transmisogyny is intersectional like the term misogynoir, and "TMA/TME" works the same as "Black/nonBlack". There are contexts when it muddies the waters to refer to every non-white person as a Person of Color, such as discussing antiBlack racism in a place like American Samoa, where I lived for a few years and about 85% of folks are Samoan/Tongan. Similarly, there are times when it muddies the waters to simply say "transphobia", because we need to have the language to describe the specific abuse that trans women are facing.

Finally: it is not transphobic to be held accountable. To be held to a higher standard of behavior than random cishets on the street is a GIFT. It is a GIFT that these women are offering to us to be in community with them. Furthermore, be aware that these kinds of intracommunity conversations are also happening on other levels - white trans women are being asked hard questions on why they aren't better allies to trans women of color sometimes, and their prickly response exactly mirrors the same protective posturing I see from trans men being asked to consider their privilege. Thank you as always to @closet-keys for articulating the model that before you look up the power structure to understand how you are being marginalized, your best first step is to look downstream to be aware of the people suffering more, because you will be better able to understand the historical forces at work.

-Rival Green/Blue takes a picture with your HGSS character because he thinks you’re cool

-he’s also feeling pretty peachy

-Erika talks crud

-someone was like making out or something in Bill’s yard in GSC 

-Giovanni literally ditches his son because he’s upset about a 10 year old beating his butt

-Silver tears a layer of your clothes off

-Children hate Steven Stone because his obsession with rocks is weird

-Prof. Birch runs away from his wife because he thinks she’s a pokemon

-There’s a tv show in Hoenn called the “Hoenn Rangers”

-There’s a magazine about exposed champions

-Characters who act attracted to you usually act the same no matter what gender you are

-Rival Barry gets distracted by a crogunk cutout when the world is ending

-Team plasma + stuff bad for team plasma= plasbad

-N knows the lyrics burn baby burn somehow

-N shouts “that’s an ugly formula!”

- Prof. Birch runs away from his wife because he thinks she’s a pokemon

- Cyrus adds space wallpaper to his office between D/P and Platinum

- Trash grandpa Charon has a secret room behind a false wall containing nothing but household appliances and a diary about hugging pokemon

- Professor Rowan beats up some galactic grunts and lectures them on proper manners when conducting an evil scheme

-Professor Rowan subsists entirely on candy bars

- If you refuse to take the pokedex, Professor Rowan gives you six dialogue boxes worth of “…” and says “I’m a very patient man, I can stand in one spot asking you this question all day”

- Looker is introduced running between lampposts over and over

- Looker refuses to let you leave the town until you get a Poketch, because its ‘secret police style’

- Looker gives you handmade tickets of his own face, covered in glitter

- Looker sits inside a giant paper mache rock for hours in a volcano, just waiting for Charon to come along

- Charon’s evil plan is foiled by being punched in the face by a small frog, commanded by a man in a rock costume

- Looker tells you that removing the Magma Stone summons Heatran, outside the mountain holding the Magma Stone.

- Pouring condiments on trees attracts hexagonal bees

- Actual playboy bunny pokemon

- Actual hedge hog pokemon

- A galactic grunt says “Cosmic energy for the win!”

- The galactic nap room. The entire existance of the galactic nap room.

- You have to talk to 32 people on wifi to turn a rock into 108 evil spirits.

- Team Flare’s employee roster includes Pitbull and a member of the Bee-Gees.

- A concerned NPC addresses Rowan as “old dude.”

- Taking a photo of yourself with a death weapon behind you.

-Team Skull took over an entire town

-Nanu, the kahuna of Ula'ula island, lives in an abandoned police station outside this town with at least 8 meowth

-Colress’s hair

-Grimsley refers to himself as ‘Uncle Grimsley’

-Archie’s zipper unzips past his crotch

-When you beat Maxie his glasses fall off

-You can go on what basically amounts to a date with any of the kahunas

-Zinnia spends half the delta episode trash talking Steven

- Nanu in the background of your champion party. He didn’t HAVE to be there, but he is. Doing the goofy dark z-dance, behind a tree somewhere.

- “Hey guess what?” “I know!” “I didn’t even ask you a question yet…”

- Professor Kukui, a man known to be shirtless all the time, can somehow survive on top of a mountain,still neglecting to wear a shirt.

- Team Skull are the only people in the series to make you pay for a Pokemon Center, and they only do it because they’re broke and have barely any power. They’re not being mean, they’re just low on funds.

- “Where are your from?” Your options to respond are “yes” and “no”

princess gown 💭

Translation: Parents aren’t making the conscious effort to help their children develop necessary skills and letting iPads raise them.

I really liked the pokemon social roles post by @bedrock-to-buildheight so I made some posts illustrating how Pepper's "team" functions

outside of Litten, all the pokemon are uncaught and their pride is held together by convenience. social groups like this form naturally in urban areas (see, Lumiose) but it's a unusual for a human to be considered a member of the group instead of as a trainer