Healing and Overcoming Adversities of Body, Mind, Spirit

It's not only that easy, it's that simple! It's pretty damn sad and scary too. It takes practice but we can change that pattern but we need to heed those red flags. #healingjourney #adversity #better neglecteddamagedgraced.com

Perhaps no other group of people have the potential to give as much Grace as we who have been neglected or abused as children. With that being said we don’t have to have those people in our lives to give them Grace, and they never have to know we are giving it to them for us to give it. In some cases we just have to let go and detach with Grace/Love. Sometimes giving Grace is just not wanting them to pay for their misdeeds. IT doesn't undo anything! When we give it we grow. We get Grace on us when we give it because we get to forget, and the big bonus,,,, we get to live as though it never happened. (Plus, we cut the bonds to the people we don't want to be bound to.) #makegrace #forgiveness #lettinggo

THANK GOD SOMEONE DID IT FOR ME!!! A little Grace can change the world for someone. And yes, you have that power too! #makegrace #Grace #GraceofGod #grateful

Loving someone with a mental illness is HARD but loving someone with trauma requires a level of self mastery that is not easily attained. The dilemma presents when we are forced to choose between their healing and the regression they might inflict on ours. #traumahealing #trust #emotionalintelligence #letgo #abusesurvivor #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealing

IF you want them gone from your heart and mind then they need to be irrelevant! Hatred is not them being irrelevant! Indifference is the goal! #hatred #hateful #irrelevant

When you don't know what's going to happen next you have to stay alert and read the room. Sadly it's a matter of survival. One problem with intuition is that we can stop trusting it, usually because we have repeatedly confused it with desire. Following intuition GOOD, Following our desires PROBLEMATIC. Another problem is that FEAR inter-FEARS with our ability to trust it. We MUST remove ourselves from TOXIC environments to be able to TRUST it again. #intuition #empathy #empathymatters #EmpathyInAction

Sometimes when we are between our ears, we are behind enemy lines! This is when a good friend (or a therapist) can help. Sometimes our perspective changes greatly when we say things out loud to another friendly ear. #lowmoments #selftalk #selfcare

I know this struggle, trust me, when you grow up feeling unappreciated you feel almost high when someone does something nice. I have to admit that this is where some of the lingering damage lies. This is where the scars I talk about in book present, usually without our awareness. This took me so long to understand but the reflex to think it's love still happens. Real love however endures all things and it is not a FEELING, it is an action. Being “in-love” is a feeling, that as mentioned is often confused with appreciation. This mislabeling of love is evidenced in relationships where people often threaten the relationships status or when people can’t understand why they are with someone. It’s really quite toxic and sad. It can even be dangerous because actual love, compassion and caring, is missing in a heated exchange. Caution,,,, sometimes people are so damaged from trauma or from such dysfunctional families that this is the only form of love they have known; it’s all they were taught by or witnessed in, their dysfunctional caregivers. #nolove #reallove #DysfunctionalFamily #toxiclove #emotionalintelligence

This may sound obvious to some but probably not as simple for those of us who were treated as an object. Survivors of sexual abuse often confuse being an object and being a person. Know this, You are not alone, and the struggle is real. In the book I explain the journey of healing and speed bumps I encountered. #survivor #abusesurvivor #childhoodtrauma #complextrauma

You know, one of the reasons I love doing these posts is because I get to remind myself of all the hard lessons I've learned. In this case the lesson was about the willingness to expand on my capacity for Making Grace. Who knew I had that in me? lol Lord knows no one I grew up with taught it to me. #traumarecovery #abuserecovery #traumasurvivor #abusesurvivor #neglected #healing #anger #makinggrace #makegrace

YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #traumarecovery #healingjourney #abuserecovery #neglected #LivingWell

Who did what to me when, doesn’t have a thing to do with treating the now. If I were to beat my abusers with a stick that wouldn’t change my condition. Too often victims of abuse and neglect focus on who did what when, and not how to heal it. Hint: One way works one way doesn’t! #healingjourney #traumarecovery #abuserecovery #neglected

Perhaps no other group of people have the potential to give as much Grace as we who have been neglected or abused as children. With that said we don’t have to have people in our lives to give them Grace and they never have to know we are giving it. In some cases we just have to let go and detach with Grace/Love. Sometimes giving Grace is just not needing or wanting them to pay for their misdeeds. We know we are feeling the Grace when we get to forget about the past and live as though it never happened. #makegrace #trauma #abuse #neglect #forgiveness #lettinggo

I know Grace wasn’t what I had planned for the people that wounded me but to my surprise that’s how it happened. For the doubters, I explain it in the book. I show you just how hurt and angry I was, then how it changed my mind. I never imagined I would experience this much relief. I still have the scars on the inside but I forget about them a lot more often now. #makegrace #trauma #traumarecovery #traumasurvivor #neglected #abused Emmanuel #forgiveness #survivor

We never know when it's coming but there are days when it is more likely. In an odd way, it reminds us of what is important to us, or was. I hope you find things that can fill that void that seems to be there whenever it presents. #selfpity #traumahealing #traumasurvivor #abusesurvivor #neglect #neglected #whatsimportant #youarenotalone #happydays

I wish my brain would have taken the position that I have served other people’s needs far longer than was healthy for me; that it's time I look after my own. My stain just doesn’t allow me to be that selfish when it comes to anything of a romantic nature. Why? Simple, because I was taught that what’s important for me doesn’t matter. My abusers and the people that neglected me proved that to me by their actions and inactions. Reducing this stain is a lifelong journey. Emmanuel #traumasurvivor #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #neglected

It might help to read it twice. I know it can cut a little deep for some. Don't get stuck on the self talk thing either. The way we let others talk to us usually sets the stage for self talk. BOUNDARIES WORK!!! #setlimits #selftalk #affirmations #abusesurvivor #positivemindset #positiveselftalk