days of girlhood - analysis
disclaimer: i really hate the idea of "media literacy" because of how insane some of the types of posts or videos that get posted now so it's really difficult to figure out when smth is serious or a skit.
that being said, i will say that in terms of dylan mulvaney's days of girlhood, it's v obvious that it's NOT written for everyone.
the song was released on the 2 year anniversary of dylan's girlhood and clearly has a large culmination of dylan's own experiences:
"girls like me gotta learn the basics" - much like other trans girls and trans women, dylan has a lot of life adjustments to make when going from her assigned gender at birth to living in the gender that she identifies with. rather than learning through her experiences while growing up, there are a lot of "lessons" that she's missed due to her not growing up being perceived as a girl and going through "typical girl situations". as such, there are a lot of "basics" that she still needs to learn about.
"playin' catchup 'cause we missed the pre-game" - as previously mentioned, because dylan didn't "grow up as a girl" she's new to functioning in society through the role a woman since she didn't learn how to navigate being female throughout her entire life. there are a lot of typical "girlhood" experiences that dylan has missed out on and she feels she is still going through "girlhood" rather than having entered "womanhood" (something that she stated as one of the reasons why her series on tiktok is named days of "girlhood" rather than "womanhood").
"tuesday morning, pick up meds" - trans individuals often take hormones when transitioning in order to produce the physical changes that would have happened during puberty (ie. voice dropping for males, growth of breasts for women).
"wednesday, retail therapy//"cash or credit?" i say yes" - trans individuals typically need to buy a lot of new items that align with the gender they identify with once they come out whether that be selfcare, clothing items, or otherwise. since they haven't been buying and collecting clothing, make up or other items over a long period of time, the amount they need to buy is often a lot which could be costly and potentially be out of their current budget (one of the reasons why one's ability to transition is often impacted by classism).
"friday night i'll overspend" - again, there are a lot of experiences that trans folks may not have gone through, dylan's reference to overspending could be in regards to anything from typical friday night outings to spending money on gender affirming items.
"playing wingman to our twinks" - members of the lgbtq+ community typically tend to find commonality and friendship in each other due to shared experiences.
"got my dolls by my side" - while "doll" is a term that could be used for anyone, it's also slang that the trans community often uses for trans women.
"the patriarchy's over, you can hold our beer" - dylan had a budlight commercial that had resulted in massive backlash from right wingers and this is likely in reference to her getting past that incident.
"mom brought me into the world//sister taught me how to girl//best friend coached me how to text//the boy toy that i'm dating next//girls who helped show me the way//they're why i'm an it girl today" - while cisgirls/ciswomen also receive support from surrounding female figures when growing up, dylan is referencing the community that has helped her with her journey in transitioning. there have been various girls and women who have talked to her at events, dedicated videos to her or given her advice in her comments section and she's showing her appreciation for the support that she's been given. through this verse she's telling us about how how it's allowed for her to learn what it means to be a girl as well as solidify her as an icon who had a rise from tiktok. ("it girl" is often used in reference to girls/women who are influential in pop culture)
in addition, to these points there are various references to her tiktoks such as naming the song "days of girlhood" (which is the name of the tiktok series she started on day one of her transition), and ending the song with "love ya" (which she says at the end of every video).
while there are "stereotypical" references to girlhood that can come off as "misogynistic" or "belittling" girls, it's important to note that this song is meant to have a more "campy" undertone and plays with the idea of the assumptions associated with girlhood. and even if some of the lines come off poorly to cisgendered girls, it is important to remember that gender euphoria doesn't always come from positive experiences, sometimes trans individuals receive feelings of gender euphoria through experiences that are often negatively tied with their identified gender. it isn't something that trans folks choose, it's just what happens to help them feel gender affirmation.
while there are bits and pieces that cisgirls may be able to relate to or understand, they aren't the target audience for this song, and it isn't meant to be a dig at women or "anti-feminist". and we should keep in mind that some ideas typically seen as "oppressive" could actually be typical transgirls' experiences due to the difference in perspective and connotation.
we've been able to see the ways in which dylan has grown since her first day of girlhood and has developed a better understanding of how to approach the topic. she's talked about how she reflected on her early days of girlhood videos and how they perpetuate stereotypes and the way she goes about her posts now shows audiences that she's been able to learn and grow through her journey of girlhood.
as a result, while the song could initially feel offensive when one does not understand the underlying meanings of the song, it is obvious that she did not mean to cause any offence to women once we have delved into the context of the lyrics in relation to her journey as a transgirl.

















