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Olivia, the white woman, in book 1 kisses Liam and gets hardly any abuse but one of the only women of color in that book likes a man and gets abused for it. There's a clear divide in how both of these characters are treated.

i could do anything to my body and still be viewed as a small, cute asian girl

really fks me up that people think it’s okay to tell others who obviously have a poor relationship w femininity that they look feminine and will always look cute no matter what

i was preyed on by multiple kpop and anime fans to fulfill their asian fetish

kpop fan told me to my face all asians are either drop dead gorgeous or ugly

kpop fan told me multiple times on days i felt good and comfortable w presenting masculine “u look rlly feminine today”

kpop fan told me i could get tattoos all over my body and piercings all over my face and i would still look cute

i was told multiple times that it was rare for asian ppl to have lips like me or a chest like me (look like an adult???)

anime fan told me he could beat the shit out of me / could easily kill me and didn’t understand why i was uncomfortable

anime fan would mansplain me constantly the entire time i knew him about literally everything (including my own culture)

anime fan constantly talked down on me like i was always doing something wrong and incapable of doing anything right

multiple ppl laughed at the idea of me thinking of myself as hot / handsome / cool instead of cute

i don’t think u guys realize how demeaning this is and this has been a constant my entire life. even as an adult, ppl use words they use for children to describe me. ppl babytalk to me. this is why many asian ppl take offense to being called cute. it’s infantilizing, dehumanizing, and emasculating.

ex of ppl doing this to full grown celebrities:

sandra oh

marie kondo

lana condor

literally every single kpop idol and every single actor in the untamed

i’m begging u to be mindful. i am so sick of being viewed and treated this way, esp by ppl who apparently Love asian ppl.

watch how u treat asian ppl online and irl. we’re people deserving of basic respect. we’re people who are varied. we’re people who have boundaries.

In my career, it’s not that I’m called cute, but I’m called “shy.” The most common feedback I get is “be more confident” and “speak up more.” I thought this was normal or maybe I was just shy until talking with my asian colleagues and finding out that every single one of us has gotten the same feedback at least once, but more often than not, multiple times. We’re all very different people. If it was just me, you could make an argument for me being shy, but if it’s all of us - that’s racism. My white colleagues who do identify as shy have told me they’ve never gotten feedback like that.

This might not sound so bad, but we live in a society where confidence and proactiveness are viewed as the marks of leaders. That’s why Asians are shut out of leadership positions. That’s why people ignore what I say and only listen if a non asian says it later and louder. That’s why people sometimes what feels like deliberately misunderstand what I say bc I couldn’t possibly lead the discussion.

People have said to me, “this is just asian culture,” but I strongly disagree. Firstly, you’ve never been to an asian market or seen some aunties bicker over majong. Secondly, non Asians think we’re loud as soon as someone drops a “ni hao ma” in the library so clearly, it’s not our culture.

To get kind of esoteric here, I’d argue there’s two parts to it. One, there is absolutely a self fulfilling prophecy where if I’m told I’m not confident enough times, I’ll believe it, and I’ll behave less confidently.

However, the second (and I think main) part is just plain old racism. People think Asians are quiet and unassuming and unfeeling and they see us that way no matter what we do. And if we get loud, we become tiger moms and gunner Asians (something I’m constantly aware of at work, bc I do rely on my colleagues evaluations).

It could be argued that being viewed as “not a threat” is not a bad thing, but again, I must disagree. Although people think this means we get to fly under the radar, the reality is it means we are free game to be taken advantage of. Asians often will be pushed to work the longest and hardest and do better because “that’s how Asians are” “Asians are just smarter” “Asians like to work” (devaluing our work). Then there’s OP’s point, where it affects gender identity - because Asians are viewed as emasculated as a race. And further along OP’s point, where Asians are seen as easy targets for physical violence because we’re smaller.

(This is honestly most annoying among liberal whites because they have decided they’re educated about blm and therefore are the most woke and know everything about everywhere else.)

[i would like to add that the term “non asian” is co-opting black terminology to center it on us. it’s important that we have the language necessary to talk about the brand of racism we face, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of black people.]

going further into it, there’s history here.

asian american history was erased to push the model minority stereotype to fuel racism against other poc. specifically black ppl. because of this, our history of being survivors of violent acts of racism is ignored as well as our history of Loud Activism.

in current times, we are criticized for not being vocal enough, for falling into white ppl’s hands, and though there’s much to criticize the asian community for, this comes, in part, from a place of ignorance as well.

at the same time, when asian ppl do speak up, we get the other end of the spectrum. we are shut down. we are not believed. we lose job prospects. we are taught that submission equals success.

it’s a vicious cycle.

“Because we know we won’t be believed, we don’t quite believe it ourselves. So we blame ourselves for being too outspoken or too proud or too ambitious.” - Cathy Park Hong

As always. I hope that you enjoy reading as much as I enjoyed writing.

A/N: This is the last of my Valentine’s Day one shots. Karis and Adonis role play. Thanks @secretaryunpaid​​ for the preread. It’s SMUT.

Disclaimers: Characters are property of Pixelberry

Warnings: NS*FW (+18) don’t read this fic if you’re a minor; Language.

Word Count: 1057

Prompts: “Would you like me to show you? What I can do?” from @theworldofprompts​ will appear in BOLD.

Pairings: Liam x MC (Karis)

Song inspiration: Sex Room- Ludacris

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When you are married to Liam Adonis Rhys you never know what you are going to get. Just know it’s going to be good. 

Last week

“Good morning my queen, Sunday is Valentine’s Day. Any request?”

She walked around his desk splaying her hand across his strong chest before whispering in his ear.

“Every day is Valentine’s Day with you. I don’t need to do anything special.”

He took note of her response and smiled as she kissed him gently on his cheek.

Getting an audience on this website can be really damn difficult. Too many talented souls go unnoticed. I’ve created this blog to give those blogs more of a chance to let their talented grow and find their audience. 

How this is going to work? 

I haven’t decided if this will be a weekly thing yet but I’ll definitely  be a monthly thing. I’ve created a google doc with one simple question to answer. Who do you think deserves more recognition? 

I’ll be re-bloging all of the ‘underdogs’ work and making a list of everyone, liking their masterlists too. 

Who this applies too. 

Anyone. Writers, artists… anyone. Anyone and everyone who you think should have more people visiting their blogs. 

Here’s the link to the google doc:

 https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScXG6zDqqfY6Nc4vhWm6q9z9GSQpGdPyA0xy4WboGdn2-ZMhA/viewform?usp=sf_link