my personal experience with 12th house synastry
⟢ i’ve been into astrology for 2 years now, and during this time i’ve noticed astrologers tend to not give much explanation to 12th house synastry. and i totally get why, it’s one of the most confusing houses in both synastry and natal charts, but today i’d like to talk a little bit about my personal experience with this complicated house and how it felt for me
⟢ so, for 6 months, i was in love with this boy who had a stellium in my 12H, and gods, was it the most confusing thing of our lives. he had his sun, mercury AND venus in my 12H house, so let’s dive into this. but before i start, i want to mention that this is my PERSONAL experience and what happened in my case, doesn’t mean will happen in yours too
⟢ also, please take notice that other placements and aspects can 100% influence how your own synastry chart plays out
his sun in my 12H
⟢ i can confirm that what they say about the sun person not seeing the house clearly is very much true. sometimes it seemed like he idealized the idea of me while he wasn’t even sure of his feelings towards me
⟢ it seemed like his mind was in a total fog and he just couldn’t understand what he was feeling for me no matter how much he tried to. and i gave him PLENTY of time and patience to understand his feelings
⟢ as for me, the house person, let me tell you that i had so many dreams with him that it genuinely wore me out because those dreams were so vivid too. like i swear i have never in my life had so many dreams of only one person. and they were so frequent too. there was a time when i was dreaming of him almost every night
⟢ as if the dreams part wasn’t bad enough, i started over romanticizing every thing he was doing towards me and even managed to fool myself that he was SO in love with me, when in reality not even he was sure what he was feeling. the problem is that i didn’t even realize i was doing all of that until a friend pointed it out to me
his mercury in my 12H
⟢ now, i truly feel like this was the only decent placement. i noticed we tended to think very alike, always finish each other’s sentences. sometimes i used to think of something and then he would bring up the same thing in our conversation
⟢ for me, i always felt like he was the only one who could comfort me when it came to some serious personal problems of mine. it felt like somehow he always knew exactly what to say to me to make me feel better
⟢ there were moments when our conversations seemed to never end, but don’t get me wrong, there were moments when we would sit in absolute silence too, just scrolling on our phones. but even that silence felt comfortable
his venus in my 12H
⟢ i feel like this was the placement that made it so difficult for us. i viewed him as the person i want to have a relationship with and portrayed him as my ideal partner
⟢ i was confused when he rejected me, but when we talked i realized he viewed me as someone too good for him, someone he’s scared he’ll hurt if he realizes his real feelings and those feelings are platonic
⟢ in our case, he had a time period when he tried to convince himself his feelings were romantic but he wasn’t able to so, therefore his feelings remained uncertain up to now
⟢ there were other times when i would hang out with him then when he’d left, people would ask me if we’re a couple or not. and when i told them no, they’d tell me that he surely likes me then because they see it in his eyes?? yeah and then he admitted people told him the same thing about me. SO it seems that for this placement everyone from the outside tends to see the connection besides the people who are actually involved in it
⟢ 12H synastry rarely works and it didn’t work in my case either, yeah, but if it didn’t work for me, that doesn’t mean it won’t work for you either. just don’t repeat our mistakes and try to talk openly with the other person, so there is no space left for confusion <3
please don’t copy my work. it’s my personal experience and work and i would like to have that respected, thank you.
