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(Cross posted Fetlife.com -Sir-Archer- )

As a male growing up in a monogamous world, with monogamous religions and politics making ridiculous laws, being a kinkster in the BDSM scene , has made life a doubly hard journey to navigate on its own without adding Polyamory to the mix.

I see the occasional post from polyamorous couples “seeking unicorn” and I see that using that term ‘Unicorn’ fits very well in this area.

‘Unicorns’ are mythical beings and I believe ladies interested in living as a polycule are scarce.

My question is why?

Are they hiding? Where are they?

Surely there are a lot of polyamorous people on this big planet !

Why are there so few ladies who would love to share with a couple?

Aren’t we human beings and as such free to express our relationship preferences or is it still Taboo?

Is it shameful still, like not that long ago (I remember well) when kink was total taboo and same sex marriage was outlawed?

In our progressive world with open minded people now having a voice, I’d hope that polyamory isn’t still considered a taboo.

(I have a side blog for this but hey more people will see it here)

• BDSM does not always involve pain

• BD stands for bondage and discipline, DS stands for domination and submission, SM stands for sadism and masochism

• You don’t need all three categories for BDSM although they often overlap.

• BDSM is not always a sexual act. For example, you can tie someone up and not have sex with them before you untie them. BSDM can be like a stress relieving hobby

• Not all subs are masochists and not all dominants are sadists

• Although BDSM relationships can be abusive like any other, dominants are not inherently abusive.

• Submissive partners aren’t miserable during a scene although they might look that way

• BDSM scenes aren’t always serious. You can laugh or smile in a scene when you’re having fun. • Dominants take care of their subs. If a sub is crying and begging and looks like they’re in terrible pain, it’s only because the sub has chosen to be in that situation. They are not being abused.

• You can practice self-bondage, you don’t necessarily need a partner

• Aftercare is a thing. Picture a D/s pair cuddling and comforting each other after a scene where the D whipped the s. You always care for each other afterwards

• Dominants are not always cruel

• Basically BDSM isn’t the violent abusive thing it is often seen as

• But also don’t just jump into it. Before you try BDSM with a partner or alone, research safe words, different roles, red flags in a D/s relationship, signs your bondage is hurting you, and physical signs that mean your scene needs to stop immediately (like numb hands, blurry vision, etc)

• Google Safe, Sane and Consensual or Risk Aware Consensual Kink for more info on how BDSM can be a healthy thing that doesn’t hurt anyone

(Cross posted Fetlife.com -Sir-Archer- )

As a male growing up in a monogamous world, with monogamous religions and politics making ridiculous laws, being a kinkster in the BDSM scene , has made life a doubly hard journey to navigate on its own without adding Polyamory to the mix.

I see the occasional post from polyamorous couples “seeking unicorn” and I see that using that term ‘Unicorn’ fits very well in this area.

‘Unicorns’ are mythical beings and I believe ladies interested in living as a polycule are scarce.

My question is why?

Are they hiding? Where are they?

Surely there are a lot of polyamorous people on this big planet !

Why are there so few ladies who would love to share with a couple?

Aren’t we human beings and as such free to express our relationship preferences or is it still Taboo?

Is it shameful still, like not that long ago (I remember well) when kink was total taboo and same sex marriage was outlawed?

In our progressive world with open minded people now having a voice, I’d hope that polyamory isn’t still considered a taboo.

A dom is the dominant one in the relationship or in the bed room.

A sub is the submissive one in the relationship or in the bedroom who submits to the dom.

+ A switch is someone who is both dom and sub, who likes to switch roles and is in another space [sub space, dom space].

The dom is the one who is in control of the sub [either sexually or not]. Both the dom and sub usually like the positions they’re in, but if a sub or dom likes to switch roles the person is not called either a sub or dom, the person is then [called] a switch.

Dom and sub kink don’t always occur in relationships or in the bedroom, there are “no roles”.

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When she becomes too demanding.

When she doesn’t show you sufficient respect or disrespect you.

When she needs to be reminded of her place.

When she needs to be reminded who is in charge.

When she stops behaving like a girl.

When she doesn’t do as she’s been told or only does it reluctantly.

When she talks back or start questioning you.

When she forgets to say “please” or “I’m sorry.”

When she burns your food, makes you a shitty sandwich, does a lousy job at cleaning and washing.

She’s a bad fuck.