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The gods are silent. Rivellon bleeds. New powers stir.

if you do, how do you deal with them?

i had my first few recently and they really hurt my feelings lol just trying to figure out how others i look up to handle it

love your blog ✨

Hm... Not really? I think it depends on your definition of what hate comment is. I don't really consider "personal reactions to the work" hate - like, people expressing disgust or shock or dislike for the subject of the art. I get those occasionally on Instagram where people seem to have the worst social skills of all of social media, and they are always clearly from someone who stumbled upon my art by accident and didn't like what they saw. Those don't bother me because they are just a genuine human reaction to something they would have preferred to not see - it's got nothing to do with me. It doesn't even really have anything to do with the art. It's the equivalent of seeing a big spider in your bathroom, shouting and running away with your pants down. If that's the sort of unwanted feedback you got, I'd encourage you to try and change your perspective on it in a similar way.

Now - insulting skill level or making direct, personal accusations/baseless moral prescriptions against someone is definitely what I would call hate. Bullying behavior, basically. I've gotten those a handful of times and its the sort of thing you become desensitized to. Now, when I get messages I dislike, I delete them so quickly that I sometimes lament not at least showing them to my friends first so we could have a laugh about it.

9 times out of 10 ignoring is the best approach because those people cannot WAIT to hear an answer from you, and they will celebrate it regardless of what it is, even if your reply is funny, witty, or informative- they just want to waste your time so you don't do things that you enjoy doing, and give them attention instead. It's okay that your feelings got hurt and that you had a negative reaction to someone who set out with the goal to upset you - that's a human thing to feel and thank god that you still do. You can exist in those feelings for a little bit, and then you can move on, they won't kill you. Just don't actively choose to extend that misery by giving into the bait and getting into an online argument with someone who couldn't even look you in the eye at the grocery-store line.

If you're having trouble moving past the original upset, I would suggest doing things that remind you that life isn't contained within an internet chat. Take a walk, go out to eat, go to the theater or to a museum, talk to some friends or family about something that is NOT social media, remind yourself of how much of a fart in a cyclone whatever is happening in your phone is when compared to the rest of the world - like, don't just guilt into believing that, actually experience it.