Let me teach you a thing...
Polygamy: Polygamy is the practice of marrying several people. It doesnât sound so bad when you put it like that, but when you talk about it as it is performed the image changes drastically. Polygamy, as it is practiced, often involves one man marrying several women and asserting his dominance over them. He controls them, places rules on them, and this puts them in an environment of cruelty and unfairness.
Harem: A harem is a collection of people often collected for the purpose of sex. Depending on which cultures you look at you might get different versions of the same story, but most of the time the people in the harem are not considered equals.
Cheating: cheating is that act of one partner going behind the back of another to go have relations with someone else. One partner thinks everything is fine the other is clearly unsatisfied in some way. And of course this person didnât think to communicate their dissatisfaction like an adult would. Instead they chose to lie and do something that could ultimately ruin one if not both of their current relationships.
Now that iâve told you what Polyamory is not, let me tell you what it is.
Iâll make it simple: In polyamoryâŚ
âŚpartners are loved and treated as equals.
âŚrules can be used but are not recommended.
âŚeveryone knows what is going on and consents to this type of relationship, if someone does not consent, then the discussion is not over. Go back to the drawing board and figure out how to make it work. And if it canât work? You need to decide then if everything is going to stay as is or if everything is going to change.
âŚpartners should be treated in a way that suits their dynamic with each other. trying to be fair and giving everyone the same slice of âpieâ usually leaves something to be desired.
âŚpartners should not be treated as if they are above or below other partners because then everyone is not on equal standing and you make them feel like they have more say or no say in how things are done.
âŚeverything is discussed openly, emotions are laid bare. No one should be judged for how they feel and no one should foist their feelings onto other people.
âŚcommunication, communication, communication. Not discussing everything and not having regular check ins with everyone can and will ruin your relationships faster than you can say quidditch.
Now there are a lot of different ways to have a polyamorous relationship. By nature a polyamorous relationship is amorphous and will change shape and feel as those within require it to change. Polyamorous relationships donât come out of a mold factory built over several thousand generations. Polyamorous relationships are built by the hands of those who want them and they are built in a way that suits the builders, not because someone said a particular shape was right and another was wrong.
People who have multiple sex partners who are all aware of each other and consent to sharing each other are polyamorous.
People who have multiple romantic partners who are all aware of each other and consent to sharing each other are polyamorous.
People who have both multiple sex and romantic partners and who yes all consent are, you guessed it, polyamorous.
Even people who are not romantic or sexual can be considered polyamorous. Because itâs not about romance or sex; itâs about love and trust.
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