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You do not have to be affectionate all the time to care for someone, in fact, caring can also mean a couple of texts or silence for a few days while you both live your lives happily and separately.

People do not care for you less when they’re busy with their own lives. It’s your reaction to them being their own person - and your ability to make yourself happy - that determines how they feel about you.

Not everyone reciprocates to your actions the same way. If you want someone to acknowledge, be interested in, or treat you a certain way for your efforts, all you have to do is let them know. They will try their personal best to accommodate that within their personal spectrum of feelings.

Can’t pay the full amount you owe on a bill? Pay as much as you can each month. Most places just wanna know you’re making a good faith effort. You can usually even call and ask for a smaller minimum monthly payment plan until you catch up, so that maybe you won’t be getting late fees added on to your balance. It’s worth calling to see. 

Third time you’ve had to reschedule that doctor’s appointment? Oh well. Your doc probably just wants to make sure you make it in to their office at all. Keep trying.

Half-assing is always better than no-assing folks. I know lots of us are anxiety-ridden perfectionists and it feels like if we can’t do everything exactly right on the first try we just shouldn’t bother. But that’s not true. 

wash your face every night - washcloth, warm water, and a simple cleanser will do wonders. plus, warm water helps make you all sleepy for bed

take a multivitamin every day - and keep an eye open for coupons for them. usually multivitamins have some pretty great coupons

if you can, open the windows every once in a while. fresh air does a lot of good for your body (and state of mind)!

keep a few cleaning supplies in the bathroom. every so often after having a shower, give things a quick wipe-down. the steam from the shower dislodges any sink guck, making the job much easier - and never underestimate the power of a clean bathroom for both physical and mental health

keep a water bottle by the bed and drink some water when you wake up. it’ll help you greet the day a little easier, and plus - whose mouth ISN’T as dry as the sahara when they wake up?

it’s not always easy, but try to make doing dishes before turning in for the night a habit. i can’t express how lovely it is to wake up and walk into a clean and tidy kitchen

keep snacks in the fridge that are delicious and healthy - my faves are strawberries, cherry tomatoes, and grapes. i love snacks. plus, there’s not really much prep involved with those kinds of things

sweep! sweeping takes up a bit more physical energy, but it’s become one of my favourite things to do. i put on some nice music and visualize sweeping out not only dirt, but anything else clouding up my space - negative energy, self doubt, etc. it’s a nice, witchy little ritual for me now.

light a candle, specifically one that smells delicious

identify the things that make you feel better about yourself and your surroundings and prioritize them and only them when you’re feeling sucky. that way, you still feel accomplished, but you aren’t using up all your mental and physical energy trying to run through all your tasks/cleaning/etc

“A Thread of Tips” by Shelby

hello everyone! a lot of you have requested a masterpost on language learning, so here are some resources that i’ve come across and found useful, as well as some tips from me :^) hope you guys find it helpful!

apps:

tunein radio - this is a free radio app that gives you access to hundreds of radio stations from all around the world in different languages; great for improving listening comprehension skills + everyday vocabulary

anki - super super flexible + powerful flashcards tool which implements spaced repetition!!

quizlet - for on the go flashcards + other interactive games to help with memorization

memrise - offers hundreds of courses at different levels of difficulty for a huge variety of languages! 

duolingo - interactive app for grammar + vocabulary

pleco - hands down the BEST dictionary app for chinese learners

multi-language websites:

fluentin3months - language hacks!! super helpful and motivational in my opinion!

conjuguemos - for spanish, french, german, latin, italian, portuguese

languagepod101 - downloadable podcasts that teach 31 different languages from beginner conversation skills to advanced!

linguanaut - has phrases, videos + alphabets of over 50 languages

livemocha - super cool community where you can learn a new language while helping others learn your native language!

forvo - this is an AMAZING resource which has pronunciations by native speakers in basically. every language. it’s great so check it out

some tumblr resources:

list of language studyblrs from my studyblr directory!

thelanguagecommunity - this blog has sooo many helpful resources for a huge variety of languages

amazing language masterpost with dozens of useful websites for specific languages

some resources for specific languages:

(these are just on the languages that i’m learning, but i thought i’d include them anyways!)

french

french masterpost by @laprincessequietudie

bbc bitesize list for gcse french!

list of french resources including youtubers + music

50 advanced french phrases - this is so so so helpful

french compound tenses and moods

verbs cheat sheet!

pretty good explanation of qui and que (relative pronouns) 

japanese

hiragana chart - #1 priority for beginner japanese learners!

katakana chart - the other japanese alphabet for pronunciation of foreign words 

super cute writing practice for hiragana!!

and for katakana!

tofugu - an extremely extremely helpful and comprehensive guide to japanese resources + finding exactly what tailors to your needs

wanikani - i’ve been using this kanji learning tool and let me tell you it is a blessing. if you are at all interested in learning kanji please use this it’s amazing

explanation of when to use on’yomi and kun’yomi readings for kanji!

crunchy nihongo - super cute word-of-the-day blog that uses mnemonics to help you remember vocab!

nihongogo - the best japanese learning tumblr i’ve come across yet! full of amazing resources + frequent updates

master3languages - frequently posts great japanese + korean content! 

korean

learn to read korean in 15 minutes (!!!)

an ask i answered on the super super basics of learning korean

talktomeinkorean youtube channel - extremely helpful!

naver dictionary - korean to english, english to korean

master3languages - frequently posts great japanese + korean content!

how to tell the times of day/periods of time in korean

really cute website for learning korean

masterpost of korean textbooks!

memorization tips!

use mnemonics! this is what i’ve been using to learn vocabulary since day 1, it makes language learning so much more fun + easier. here is a good explanation of what mnemonics do.

use a spaced repetition system like anki which has been proven to basically be the best way to learn vocabulary for a second/third language!!

here’s a super useful introduction to different memory techniques!

make a schedule - memorizing something once won’t make it stick, you have to commit to revision

if you decide not to use anki/other spaced repetition software, set time-based targets for what you want to achieve! 

+ flashcards insp if you want to make flashcards

@studyign‘s amazing alternative to flashcards method that works miracles for anything to do with memorization

study tips:

set a target of at least 5 mins a day either reviewing past content or learning something simple with some of the apps listed above!

keep a “messy tips book” to note down any interesting information you come across on your language-learning journey/any questions you want to ask + write the answers down to later!

keep a “grammar book” - add to this as you go and it will probably help you a lot later on for revision and reference!

a phrasebook MAY be a worthy investment if you are ready to commit to actively learning from the book and make sure you’re not going to buy it to just let it sit there and collect dust

stick to one course/book at a time. there is a huge temptation to start 43 different courses at once, but this distracts you from focusing on completing + mastering the content!

immerse yourself in the language by getting into that culture’s tv shows, music, etc. you’ll probably pick stuff up along the way!

motivation for when the going gets tough:

think about being able to watch tv shows in the language without subs

have secret convos with your language friends

be able to travel to that country and get around no problem

imagine being mistaken for a native speaker!!

10 benefits of learning another language

being able to say “i self-learned ____!”

learning more languages opens up a lot more career options + makes you more in demand in the workplace!

i really hope this helped you guys! wishing you all the best in your language-learning endeavours :^)

alternatives without harming yourself:

holding/squeezing ice.

splashing your face with water.

getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).

take a hot shower or bath.

eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)

massage where you want to self-harm.

get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.

remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)

describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;

having a family.

getting married.

to watch the sun rise.

to watch the sun set.

to save someone else’s life.

finish school.

get your dream job.

to laugh.

to smile.

to go camping.

travel to new places.

to wake up every morning to the person you love.

friends.

family.

to keep that promise you made.

to accomplish a goal.

to meet your idol.

to listen to new music.

theme parks.

video games.

chocolate.

to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

you are loved.

you are wanted.

you are needed.

you are beautiful.

you are handsome.

you are important.

you are not alone.

you are okay.

you are strong.

you are worth it.

you are smart.

you are not a failure.

you are useful.

you are going to be okay.

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