“I like your dress!” is acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! You’re gorgeous!” is also acceptable. “I like how your dress clings to your ass, sexy!” is NOT acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! Nice tits!” is also not acceptable.

Let’s put it like this.

If your “compliment” refers directly to:

a person’s ass

their genitals

their breasts (or lack thereof)

how much you want to have sex with them

how you want to have sex with them

wanting to have sex with them against their will

seeing certain parts of that person’s anatomy (sexual or not) in a specific, sexual act

calling the person a name that is considered ‘degrading’ or involves profanity

‘pet names’ on a stranger

then it is not a compliment, it is catcalling, and consequently, is harassment.

So as I was saying. There’s a line. “Hello, beautiful.” is alright. But “Hello, beautiful. Those lips look perfect for sucking my cock.” has crossed that line.

Frankie playing in the rainbows.

Lets talk about body positivity.

So some of you have seen this article published in O magazine stating that you can only pull off a crop top “if (and only if!) you have a flat stomach”. Bullshit. I have seen so many beautiful and curvy women post pictures of themselves killing it in their crop tops to prove this article wrong, and while I may not be as curvylicious as many of the other gorgeous women posting pictures, I do want to add to the conversation…

Some of you may know that I struggle with an eating disorder and have since I was seven years old. Because of that, my weight has fluxed a lot and my skin has stretched and it bundles in areas and I have cellulite and scars and stretch marks and all that fun stuff. I am currently in a healthy and happy spot but I, in no way, have an O magazine worthy “crop-top stomach” but yet here I am, looking fiiiiiiine in a crop top. 

Basically, to all of those who have struggled/struggling with an eating disorder and have a body that has been through hell, just know that no one, no article, no definition, no society, no stereotype, and no fucking magazine column form O magazine can take away your beauty. There is a light at the end of the tunnel past all of the self-hatred that comes with this disorder, mine just happens to involve a little bit of extra skin and couple cute crop tops.