is there a word for âi was instantly good at a lot of things as a quote-unquote gifted child, and, as a result, i was able to skate by without ever being taught how to actually learn a new skill, and now that iâm an adult trying to learn new things that i canât be good at instantaneously, i donât have the patience or knowledge to improve on them, because skills that donât come naturally to me just make me angry because i lived off instant gratification my whole childhood due to not ever being challenged intellectually or taught basic learning skills?â asking for a friend
people like this piss me the fuck off
why does everyone refuse to consider the possibility that maybe an education system designed from the ground up to turn intelligent and creative children into mindlessly efficient factory drones might have a negative effect on the people it deems (correctly or not; usually not) to be more intelligent and creative than average?
we were punished for âlearning too fastâ by having the lessons about how to learn taken away from us, and by couching it all in positive language so that our peers would resent and isolate us. literally all of us know weâre not better than anyone else, but that doesnât seem to matter in the face of âi was jealous in elementary school and have held on to that for 15+ years.â
when we say things like âi donât know how to learn things that i donât immediately understandâ you hear âi was that kid you hated because i never studied but i always got a 100% on the test anyway,â but what we mean is:
i have a vague understanding of what a flash card is, but no idea how to make them or what to do with them
i have literally no idea how to take notes because:
i donât know what iâll forget if i donât write it down
i donât know how to pay attention to whatâs being said while i write
i wouldnât know what to do with the notes anyway
if i donât understand something, i donât know how to formulate a question
i donât know how to recognize when i donât know something until it goes wrong, at which point i donât know how to identify what i did wrong
i canât tell the difference between a mistake thatâs part of the learning process and a mistake where i should know better
but yeah, if we ever acknowledge any of this, weâre definitely just being ungrateful whiners who donât realize how good we had it when we were 7
