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So I’ve heard about this Alex day ‘Scandal’, and to be honest im one of the people you guys are totally against but I believe Alex’s side of things. I do think what he did was wrong but not all of it was. It depends on how you see things; some of you will be going crazy but at least read the whole thing before judging. Now the last seven months have been hard for both ‘sides ’(I use the term sides very loosely. I don’t think there are or should be side’s just two different groups of opinions.) the victims and the accused. But im hear to share my views and understandings on what has happened.

These girls have all posted what has happened on a master post which some people will read all of it whereas others will just scroll through it, this then would make people think that this is all true and that he is a huge rapist but some of the posts mentioned how he only flirted with the girls. This isn’t actually illegal but where people wouldn’t have read them all they would just look at the amount and go with what the majority of people say, rather than reading it and choosing for themselves.

Alex said in an interview with the BBC on the 20th of March, that nobody told him to stop or pushed him away. ‘In my sexual experiences with people, nobody ever outright told me, ‘No, stop’ or pushed me away, or I’d immediately have stopped doing whatever we were doing. ‘One of Alex’s old friends (Sorry I have forgotten the name) said on social media that if she had said stop then she knew Alex would have stopped straight away. He then thanked her in his new video ‘The Past’.

In addition to what was said in the interview with the BBC , the BBC then explained how Day mentioned how he had misinterpreted signals. ‘In a Tumblr post the day before, Day had said he had made mistakes in his relationships, including being “rude or mean to people” and being unfaithful, adding that he was “terrified” that he had misinterpreted signals from people’

                        On Alex’s new video a number of comments were made and on twitter and also Tumblr, these were just calling him an ‘arse’ or telling us not to believe him, or that his apology wasn’t / shouldn’t be accepted. A number of YouTubers also expressed their opinions on this, on twitter earlier today. (Pictures above)

This shows that other YouTuber do not agree with Alex Days explanation. Just because he may not be a part of the so called community he still has a right to post on YouTube and as well he is explaining his side on things, The fact that Hannah hasn’t watched the video but comments about how she doesn’t think he should post isn’t right. Alex has every right to express his opinions and views as if you put yourself in his position im sure you would do the same.

  Alex Day isn’t a person who cares about what people think about him. He wore a mankini on camera, because of this, yet when these allegations, Alex didn’t make a new video, he didn’t really say anything he told DFTBA to take his merchandise down, as he knew they were unsure whether to do so at that present time. The fact Alex Day; the man who didn’t care of others opinions of him went quiet and didn’t brush it off or back up his views shows, he thought they were invalid at the time or that people wouldn’t listen.

Alex isn’t the only one to be accused. Like for instance Jason or Veeoneeye as he’s known on YouTube (again I am a fan of this YouTuber) said he was sorry yet people still think of him as a part of the YouTube community, but Alex Day isn’t doesn’t make sense. Now I am still a fan but im not saying what they did wasn’t wrong.

‘I am scared of Tumblr, who are militantly liberal and intolerant of anyone else who doesn’t share their opinion.’ - Alex Day. This extract was taken from Alex’s new video ‘The Past’. It shows he generally hates to go on Tumblr as he is scared of the people on it. ‘I refuse to believe that they were lying about it for attention. Ultimately if that’s how they felt, that’s how they felt. I wish they told me instead of the internet.’— Alex Day, The Past.  Alex does feel bad and if you watched the video you can see he is sincere about it. He honestly if he could would re-write his wrongs. He does wish that they had told him how they felt and to be honest there are two sides of the story as he explains in the video, this he has told us her side and then how he saw it and he filled in the blanks she left out. The two do have a connection and do match up, and his side does make sense.  

‘Many people, including some friends of mine, have come forward to say that they were emotionally manipulated and in some cases sexually abused by certain members of the YouTube community. Some of these posts were proved to be false accounts, while others appear to be more valid.’ - CharlieMcdonald.com, March 17th 2014. This is an extract from Charlie’s blog post explaining how his friends were part of the scandal. Charlie and Alex were very close and shared a house as well. He then explains how some accounts who accused these people were fake, yet people still believe those accounts.

Overall I feel as though Alex has made a mistake, or two but he shouldn’t be judged so quickly. Yes he may not be a part of this community but he still has a right to post. He will continue whether or not you want him to, and he is right about a few people on Tumblr. I am a member of Tumblr and I can honestly say I have seen those people on it. I honestly think he is being sincere and will still continue to watch his videos. I will say though if you haven’t watched the video, I suggest you do so you can see his apology and so you can see that he was sincere.

First thing’s first, if you don’t take the time to read this whole thing, at least be aware of this: I am NOT saying Alex is a saint and/or that these women are lying. Anyway. As you may or may not know, Alex has posted a new video after about 6months of disappearing off the face of the Earth. In this video he talks about the fact that he didn’t realize he was making these women feel pressured and that he was sorry for any turmoil he caused. He then proceeded to give his side of the story for a few of the women.

Whether you believe him or not is your prerogative, but we’re going to assume that he’s being honest. He has acknowledged his mistakes and has apologized, more than once, for any wrong doings. What else do you want from him? Wouldn’t you be more angry if he had just disappeared without even saying anything about the situation? He said he never meant to hurt anyone and apologized, then he gave us all some space and now he’s back apologizing again. He wants to move forward and use this traumatic experience to better himself and better learn how to interact with others and prevent this from happening again. He did not flat out rape anyone. None of the women that came forward said anything about him physically holding them down and forcing them to do things. They said they felt awkward or pressured into things. Personally, I think they probably felt pressured because of the fact that he’s somewhat of a celebrity, and probably the most famous person these women have met, not so much because of what he was actually doing or saying. One woman even flat out said that if she had said “no” she knew he would’ve stopped, but she didn’t say anything, because she didn’t feel she could. Why she didn’t feel comfortable saying “no” is unclear, but I  believe it most likely has at least something to do with the aforementioned popularity of Alex. How exactly was he supposed to know she didn’t want to be with him if she was saying yes and taking her clothes off, only to later reveal that she was unsure?

I’ve stayed quiet during this whole ordeal, trying my best to take in as many people’s opinions as possible but now I feel like I have to speak out.

Ever since the allegations, people have been trying to get Alex, and all of the other accused, to simply acknowledge what happened. Alex did just that, there isn’t 1 point in that video in which he describes himself as totally innocent. If anyone actually watched the video they could see that he tried his best to wholeheartedly explain his side of the story, trying to stay sensitive to the accusers.

It’s really pissing me of when people say “our community” doesn’t want you. You can’t speak as a collective, if most people are on the fence. People who are consistently dismissing what he has to say, it just makes you a SJW - you’re only saying it to make yourself feel better or feel superior for ‘standing up’ for the victims. You’re making our actual community seem intolerant as fuck. 

 As I see it, you should be more sympathetic towards the victim and believe what they are saying. However, this does not mean we censor the abuser when he’s admitting to what he’s done. 

I have read the victim’s accounts, I want to hear Alex’s account on the thing as well. I’m not the only one, stop trying to speak for me. I am part of the community, and I an open to his opinion. Even if I was completely sold by the victim’s accounts, he has the right to defend himself. Whether I watch or comment (both benefit him) is my choice.

It is my choice to hear him out, don’t speak for me. If you don’t want him to make videos any more, the most you can do is ignore him. Don’t give him views, and he may eventually give up. 

I’m not saying we should give him a pass on his mistakes, but the truth is he never had the INTENT to hurt anyone. He was careless but he didn’t know about the damage he was causing.

Alex Day, not accusing the girls of lying. (via have-the-wish-i-wish-tonight)