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A shy man no doubt dreads the notice of strangers, but can hardly be said to be afraid of them. He may be as bold as a hero in battle, and yet have no self-confidence about trifles in the presence of strangers.

"What" and "If" are two words as non-threatening as words can be. But put them together side-by-side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life.

You’re wearing a sweater. There’s a small hole in the sweater, maybe in the back, where you can’t see it. The hole becomes bigger as the sweater unravels and you have no idea it’s happening — you feel a little drafty but you don’t question why — until you’re standing there wondering why you’re freezing. You look at the pile of thread on the floor and you can figure out what happened. You nod knowingly. “Ah, makes sense now". It took years for my life to unravel. It happened in such small increments that by the time it was fully a mess it was too late to gather up the strings and make something whole of it again. I just ran around unraveled for a while, not sure how to handle it.

In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.