you know i really promised myself i wouldnāt get too into this because miraculous ladybug is literally a childrenās show but i keep seeing shit on twitter and i canāt help it. the way some people treat adrien as some kind of thing devoid of feelings or choice when he is a person with autonomy and emotions is so fucking weird. like some of you have no ability to accept the fact that marinette might be wrong about something and try to make excuse after excuse about why she HAS to keep secrets from him.
and like, i fully understand why she doesnāt tell adrien about his dad. i know she made a promise to gabriel, who was definitely using her vulnerability to his advantage, and that sheās probably scared of what would happen if the truth came out, but she is also very wrong for not allowing adrien the choice of whether he wants to know the truth. this is not her secret to keep. she does not get to decide what he should know about his own family. that choice is his and only his, not even his dead fatherās. he should not still have the opportunity to control his sonās life from behind the grave.
and ppl keep saying oh it could cause chat blanc she canāt tell him, but her lying to him about it and him eventually finding out could also cause chat blanc. the reveal of his father being hawkmoth was sprung onto adrien in a moment of battle, but that wasnāt the root cause of chat blanc. it was revelation of his mother, and gabrielās true intentions with the two miraculous and marinetteās warning that the wish will have a price if made. all of this was thrust upon him with no warning, and no time for him to process what was happening, and that could very well happen again if this information is sprung on him in a similar way.
there is nothing that suggests if marinette asked him if he wanted to know the truth, and warning him what knowing the truth would entail, would lead to chat blanc. the two situations are so different from each other that we cannot assume that the same events would occur. but i canāt imagine that when adrien eventually finds out marinette was lying to him all this time about the truth, it will lead to anything good either. especially if itās someone who isnāt marinette who tells him.
the truth can hurt, and will hurt no matter what, but the best way to prevent anything bad from happening, is to allow him to choose if he wants to know the truth. and he might not! and thatās okay, too, but it would be his decision and thatās what this all comes down to. because there may not be any good outcome to this situation, but the best outcome is the one where adrien is given the choice to decide if he wants to know or not.
and marinette being wrong for keeping that secret does not make her a bad person. she has a lot of empathy and knows that the truth will hurt adrien. sheās doing what she thinks is in his best interest, but it will only hurt her relationship with him and possibly with her friends down the line if she continues to withhold it. what she thinks might be for the best, may not always be what actually is. it is not her burden alone to bear, and itās not up to her to decide what is best for adrien. he is a person, and has the ability to make that decision for himself if he so chooses.