kdrama era

I enjoy soulmate aus as much as the next person but I don’t think they really reckon as much as they should with how the existence of soulmates would change nearly everything about human history and society.

You have to understand that if there were mysteriously ordained soulmate marks on all of us it would change the structure of religion. Divinity would be evidenced through it, correct or not. Sacred texts would change. If soulmate marks appeared on people of the same sex we would have completely different interpretations of sexuality and gender. About what it meant to have children! If the mark appears at a certain age, coming-of-age/adulthood ceremonies and traditions would be only about that!

And if the soulmarks are names, naming conventions would be wild to ensure the certainty of that person being your soulmate. Writing would be less an invention than an evolution of the base marks seen on the first homo sapiens. We would have had writing first!

Politically, wouldn’t a majority of people be nomadic in order to seek out their soulmate, if indeed they could be born anywhere? And maybe seeking out your soulmate could be seen as going against destiny, intervening “too early”? Family ties and inheritance would be altered by a vast amount of people leaving or coming based on a population which sought partners through soulmate-bonds. War would have to consider not just economies and borders and resources, but an attack on a population that could be and likely are the soulmates of your own. If soulmarks don’t recognize borders, what would nations even be?

In the contemporary age there would be agencies dedicated to uniting soulmates and scientific disciplines dedicated to them. There would be movements against them; there would be inquiries into their removal; there would be arguments against this based on their being sacred and/or natural. The entire philosophical debate over free will would begin and end with them. And what about legislation? Are crimes against soulmates punished more severely? Are crimes committed for them, less? When would marriage be allowed between non-soulmates, if at all? What would grief look like? The cemeteries? Would cremation be even considered if the marks are of the flesh?

Anyway it's just. Soulmarks would change everything.

In every relationship or friendship worth having, there will be inevitable moments of awkwardness, anger, miscommunication, frustration, or impatience. It’s how each person decides to navigate that that determines how much they care about one another. If you internalize those moments as an overarching statement that speaks louder than all the good times you had with this person, you are practically shooting yourself in the foot. If you decide to walk away at natural moments of friction, either that person didn’t matter all that much to you, or you do care but elect to self-sabotage all moments of connection because you fear abandonment or negative reactions from people you care about. Either way this is unsustainable and guarantees a lifetime of loneliness.

Remember when you could look things up online. Do you remember how we used to search