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1. Don’t waste time being fearful: go for that job that you’re certain you’re not gonna get. What’s the worse that can happen? You are rejected, but you gain interview experience. Self-doubt is really a waste of time.

2. Live in the present. Yes, it is important to plan for the future, but it is easy to put off living until it is too late. Make sure that you have no regrets about what you should have done. Do one exciting thing per year.

3. Know your worth. This applies to both work and relationships; never sell yourself short. No job or romance is more important than your self respect. Also, charge for any unique skills/services that you can offer. 

4. Don’t be afraid to leave bad situations. I left a stable but draining teaching job in order to protect my mental health. Even though this was a big risk, it was the best decision I ever made. NOTHING is more important than your mental health. 

5. Most 20 somethings feel that they are underachieving. This is normal - especially in today’s financial climate. Don’t feel bad if you are still living at home and cannot afford to rent/buy. I’m 30 and still living at home, saving to buy.

6. People will disappoint you, but most of the time, it’s not about you. Everybody has their own demons and traumas that make them behave in certain ways. If somebody disrespects you, assert your boundaries and keep it moving. Also, examine if there was anything you could have done to avoid the situation. But DO NOT let it eat away at you.

7. In love, nobody owes you anything. Even if they made a promise, they are their own person…Everybody has the right to change their mind and to leave a situation which is not beneficial for them. This is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is the truth.

8. Learn to enjoy your own company. Your 20s can be a lonely time as your social sphere narrows, due to employment, finances and exhaustion. Use this time to find out more about yourself and do the things that you enjoy. There is something liberating about eating at a restaurant alone. 

9. Be kind, don’t gossip or overshare. I am still working on this one. It is really difficult to be kind and positive in a world full of annoying people. However, your attitude will influence how you are being perceived. If you are unkind, people will laugh at your jokes but they will never trust you. They will never trust you not to treat them as you treat other people. Remove yourself from toxic people, and only share negativity (sadness/anger/depression) with a therapist and one other person that you trust. If you overshare negative feelings, you may be stereotyped as being full of drama. Furthermore, people will want you to stay in a negative place because it’s entertaining and makes them feel better about their own lives. Just don’t do it.

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no BULLSHIT I KID YOU NOT! Look what I found while walking Home…..

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I do not give a fuck if this doesn’t suit your blog. Boost this so everyone can prepare and have a backup plan. This is absolute bullshit but they were never supporting us anyway.

This article has been copied from here.

I’ve been struggling with anxiety and depression since 2015. I remember feeling numb 24/7 and always assuming how to act and respond around everyone else. It went on for several months.  Then, for a while, it seemed to go away. I thought life was great. I thought I was back to normal, except now that I look back on it, there can never again be normal. At least not the kind I was familiar with. Then last year, during December 201 7 it came back with a burning vengeance. My life entered turmoil and my mental state eventually drove me to the hospital.

Ever since I’ve been actively working to not have a repeat. Yes, I still fall back into my old patterns, but with these few tips, it’s been easier to get out.

Get Creative With Lighting

So, earlier this summer on a trip to Barbados I purchased these beautiful grey curtains that also acts as blackout curtains. They help block out light at night allowing me to sleep… and also enable my habits of cocooning myself to hibernate when I get depressed. Yikes. My room gets all the sunlight during the day which can make my head hurt when both curtains are pulled to each side. Therefore what I’ll do to get sunlight and avoid granting myself the privilege of total darkness during the day, I only open up one panel, or I pull both to the middle leaving the outsides of the window exposed.

Snack Attack

Another thing I’m prone to is undereating. Naturally, if I don’t eat every two-three hours, my naturally low blood pressure drops and I get dangerously lightheaded. When I’m experiencing an episode of depression I eat like one meal a day. One thing I’ve found helps is keeping a container of biscuits/crackers in my room along with juice boxes and other snacks that are easy for me to stomach when I don’t have the will to eat.

Plants

No matter how I feel, I always find the energy to take care of others rather than myself. A good and bad thing rolled into one. However, once I realised this, I decided to invest in some plants. Rather than taking care of my fully capable and not so grateful siblings (sorry, not sorry) I decided to invest in plants. Watering my plants and making sure they’re thriving, in turn, motivates me to get at least one thing I’ve been putting of doing, done.

Self Care Box

I’m definitely contemplating making a post solely about this. What a self-care box is, is a box (decorative, cardboard, plastic) that you fill with items to please/soothe your senses. Some items I have in mines are, play doh, a colouring book, coloured pencils, body oil, aromatherapy hand sanitizer, chocolate, a glitter globe…. and that’s all I can think of off the top of my head.

Journal

This isn’t something I do every night although I would like to. I tend to journal if I’m really caught up in my head, or I need to talk to someone but I don’t have the courage to say the words out loud at the moment.

Get A Hug

Although I love hugs, I have to say I don’t give or receive them quite often. However, if I’m in one my sad-depressed episodes, copping a hug from my older sister or most commonly my mum makes me feel a little bit better.

Alternative Routine

This can go for anyone. My idea of an alternate routine is instead of going to whole nine yards when it comes to say taking care of my face, I substitute steps. I’ll clean my face with a face wipe and micellar water before following through with toner and lotion. When I don’t have the energy to brush a full two minutes, floss, then use mouthwash, I cut it down to a quick brush and finish off with mouthwash. You still get the basics done, even though it’s not in full.

Basic B…

My closet is fairly simple. I have a few printed and trendy pieces, but for the most part, my clothes are in neutral colours ( white, grey, black, beige). Regardless of how I’m feeling I can pair a casual look or a more sophisticated look using shoes and accessories. It eliminates some of the headaches of what to wear and when I’m not feeling up to life I still look like I tried which helps me feel a little bit better.

Take A Walk

When I’m not feeling great I tend to overeat but I eat absolute rubbish or whatever I find in my apartment. To combat this I try and keep fruit in as well as small packets/cartons of what I call anxiety snacks e.g. small packets of cheese and pepperoni, chocolate soya milk, crackers, hummus etc.

Anyone with a name that starts with a “Z”, ends with an “i”, and isn’t some kind of Italian pasta, IS SERIOUS

Comes shopping with me

Sleepovers & home movie dates

Nail salon dates

Goes out to eat with me

Flirts a lot

Let’s me send them nudes

Does inconspicuous touching in public