Things Will Get Better, Hang In There

I’m so sorry it hurts. It wasn’t fair, what happened to you, and you don’t deserve to feel like that. But you’re not always going to be in pain. Better days are coming dear. You will Heal and be okay one day.

There's nobody whose on the top 24/7. The people who you think have it all together have failed so much in the past that they've now grown so much because of it, ask them! Genuinely, you will be amazed to hear people you look up to admit to what they failed, it may surprise you and allow yourself a little space to hold that room of failure for yourself too. Because clearly it doesn't affect how much you can love someone else, so why would it affect how much you love yourself?

don’t let the past be the only thing that defines your future

gentle reminder: you deserve to live again. stop abandoning yourself. you’ve already gone through enough. you have permission to be kind to yourself and start again as a new person. you deserve love and everything else you think you don’t deserve. don’t hurt yourself any more.

spoiler alert: you’re going to get through this, look back, and understand why some things went the way they did

*through gritted teeth* i will be patient with and kind to myself. i will be present with myself in the everyday. i will allow myself to be comforted by the world immediately available to me. i will not abandon myself when i feel scared. i will trust myself to know how to care for myself. i will let a better life slowly seep into mine so i still recognize it as my own.

You are doing your best. You do not need to produce in order to have value

small kindnesses to yourself, done consistently, add up to something huge over time. start today, however small

you are doing your best in a genuinely complicated world, and that counts. forgive yourself for the rest

sometimes it takes a lot of strength to ask for help. you are actually the opposite of weak when you admit you could use some help.