Can you give examples on how you affirm.Do you just sit down and say them out loud,like you are talking with someone or do you say them in your head and how often a day do you say them?
This is a great question!
So, when affirming, you do not need to say your affirmations out loud. You can just say them in your mind, because affirmations are actually just supposed to be new thoughts that you think in order to replace the old thoughts.
You CAN say them out loud, because sometimes it helps you to add more passion and focus on them a bit more, BUT you do still need to make sure that you are thinking with your affirmations when you think of your desire as well.
So, for me personally, as I have mentioned before, I am currently getting commitment from my SP, so this is what my desire is, but I also actually prioritise self-concept. My personal routine is pretty much 90% self-concept and 10% SP. I affirm primarily for my self-concept because it keeps me in my power, takes away any care of 3D circumstances that would bother the old me, and makes me see my manifestation from less of an emotionally attached POV. Basically, it makes me feel much less like my manifestation is 'big' and 'hard' to achieve. It takes the manifestation off the pedestal and puts ME on the pedestal. Because it reduces resistance, I end up believing so much stronger that my manifestation is happening, no matter what, and this allows me to much more vividly step into the feeling/state of the wish fulfilled. I found that when I would affirm primarily for my SP, I was putting myself in a state of desperation and neediness for him, creating too much attachment to the 3D and worrying about checking, and I was putting him on the pedestal, when I should be the one on there - in my power, and the priority.
I will explain my approach to affirming below, however, I will say straight off the bat that everything revolves around mental diet and consistently only allowing myself to think with my affirmations when my desire or any doubts come to mind.
I affirm for my self-concept (in my head) literally whenever I get the chance. It works like magic. When I'm washing the dishes, when I'm in the car, when I'm going for a walk, when I'm in the shower, when I'm watching a TV show or movie where the plotline tries to trigger me, etc. Whenever I think of my desire I link my self-concept in there too, because remember that YOU are the priority here and that your SP will prioritise you if YOU prioritise yourself mentally first.
On days where I have free time, or if I feel like my emotions are running a bit wild, I meditate for about an hour (usually in the afternoon or evening) and affirm (in my head) for self-concept, some SP, and even visualise. I sometimes use EFT to tap out any emotions and anxiety and neutralise myself.
I affirm (in my head) for my SP pretty much only whenever I think about him all through the day, every day, (which is very often, so it adds up haha). I also affirm at night for a few minutes before I go to bed. HOWEVER, when I affirm for my SP, I always bring it back to my self concept. I do this every single time he comes to my mind or any kind of doubt about myself, my love life, fears about it, or thoughts about the past come to my mind. I start affirming for my SP, and link it back to self-concept, then I just do this on repeat until I feel better. It doesn't usually take long for me to start to feel better after reminding myself that I am in control.
At night, I go to sleep listening to subliminals with all my affirmations (that I made) and I also repeat my self-concept affirmations to myself as I drift off. As I do this, I sometimes try to imagine my SP being loving with me as I fall asleep. Also, if I wake up at any point in the night, or if I wake up too early and need to go back to sleep, I switch into affirming mode again and affirm as I fall asleep again.
Whenever I feel any sort of doubt or really need a kick in the ass to get me back on my A-game, I like to RAMPAGE my affirmations and basically say them as if I'm telling myself off and giving myself a pep talk. I like to do THIS out loud, as it really channels my emotion and gets me really hyped up to keep my shit together.
For anyone who wants to know what MY affirmations are, I will share them below (note that the brackets are words that I usually include, but may just skip over sometimes):
I am loved (how I want to be loved)
I am committed to (properly)
(I am a master at manifesting)
SP committed to me so easily!
SP is so in love with me (that it's pathetic)
SP is literally my official boyfriend now!
You don't need a specific routine or to affirm for a specific amount of time. If I HAD to prescribe you a certain amount of time to loop your affirmations for, I'd say 3-5 minutes each time. HOWEVER, if you are keeping a mental diet (which involves saying your affirmations whenever your desire comes to mind) you will pretty much end up affirming so much throughout the day that by the end of the day, it would add up to a crazy amount of time. You just want to make sure that you are training yourself to think as if EVERY TIME you think of your desire so that you can train your mind to switch the story and thought process.
So you need to affirm and think as if EVERY DAY, WHENEVER YOUR DESIRE COMES TO MIND at the VERY LEAST, as well as when you fall asleep at night! If you want your desire to come faster, you should make affirming a priority.
All you need to do is think thoughts that imply the fulfillment of your desire ('think as if' by saying your affirmations) WHENEVER something remotely related to your desire comes to your mind, keep a clean mental diet by staying aware of your thoughts and replacing the unhelpful ones with your affirmations (basically still just 'thinking as if'), focus on your self-concept to prioritise yourself mentally and put yourself on the pedestal, and persist!