Beautiful Loser

this is part 2 of my previous post: a man’s biggest flex is providing 

Girlies,

no sane man

masculine man,

is sitting around a table with his buddies flexing about how many hours his woman spends in the kitchen, or how fast she can clean the entire house, or how she can find the best deals and coupons

wealthy provider men brag about how much ease they add into their woman’s life

not how much they take from her and drain her 

they’re out here talking about how they sent their wife on a trip to dubai, 

or how they gave their wife their credit card to do some damage because she’s sad about her dog dying

they brag about how bratty and materialistic their wives are “she can never have too many shoes”

but they don’t say this in a malicious way, it’s actually an endearing compliment

this is a flex among men

this is saying “my wife has a taste for the finer things in life and i can always deliver for her”

no man aspires to having a well trained maid for a wife

those who do just can’t afford the woman they actually want

so the next time you’re on a date and someone asks if you’re good at cooking or cleaning

if they make remarks about how bougie your wardrobe is and how your instagram is filled with fine cuisine

that’s your cue to pack up and leave

Apologizes when they make a mistake with their words and actions

“We’ll figure this out together”

Effort

Plans dates

Keeps promises

Is consistent

Chivalrous

Your biggest fan

Understands your triggers

Provider and protector mindset

Actively working on self growth and healing

The Reversal of Desire "The Tools" — Phil Stutz

📚 “He who had the charge of my education, taught me not to be fondly attached to any of the contending parties in the chariot-races, or in the combats of the gladiators. He taught me also to endure labour; not to need many things; to serve myself, without troubling others; not to intermeddle with the affairs of others, and not easily to admit of accusations against them.”

Takeaway:

❌ Do not get too attached to any of two parties. As Sensei says, the wealthy donate to both parties.

✅ Be dutiful and finish what you start.

❌ Do not be ostentatious.

✅ Pursue your self interest.