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mutuals what perfume or cologne do you use? 👀

can i be real for a moment and say i find it really frustrating that whenever advocating for veganism or going plant-based in general you have to be especially careful to make sure to highlight you understand every possible exception that may exist in a way you're just not expected to do with other industries. like obviously i know not everyone has the means to go plant-based for a variety of reasons such as where they live, potentially restrictive allergies, limited resources, necessary medications etc etc. but i know this is true for other things as well. like i advocate against buying clothes new especially from cheap fast fashion brands. but people seem so much less likely to assume that i'm like, mad at anyone who doesn't have the means to buy second-hand or ethically produced clothes. it seems like no one actually wants you to talk about your ethical stance on food and it's on you even if you actually just answer people when they ask you why you're not eating something. likee people have so much more understanding for religious restrictions in diets than a restriction you came to yourself upon evaluation of what industries you want to support. i am already super conscious of the fact that just talking about my day-to-day choices with food or in any way mentioning that certain foods are not options to me risks someone getting mad at me including my friends. it's exhausting and i wish you wouldn't.

you can explain the material things that could be done to make trans women's lives easier, and someone who thinks misandry is real will show up like "that pales in effectiveness to my strategy, abolishing gender". and then they wont abolish gender

they only ever want to abolish trans women's gender

a lot of people say "abolish" when they mean "re-naturalize." they don't want to make sexgender systems more visible and work collectively to dismantle them. they want to make them invisible and insist there is nothing there to dismantle.

one of the upsides of being a professional house cleaner in a queer owned business is that you get the vindictive satisfaction of seeing in person again and again just how many tme trans people still happily display their harry potter books and merch around their place. And it’s far more than you would think. Even the ones with the stickers going on about owning banned (trans) books. Honestly maybe especially those ones if we’re being honest. Nobody’s got any principles

Tumblrites will see you talk about transmisogyny and tell you to go outside and then you get to go back to work cleaning a they/he’s house who has 3 different hufflepuff scarves split across the rooms of their place by their gay art

why is it so hard for people to grasp that disabilities disable and chronic illnesses are chronic. yes even when it inconveniences you. yes even when your patience runs out