This Is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things, Barry

PSA: Please teach your partner how to choke properly if you’re into that kind of thing.

The point of choking is not to crush the oesophagus, but rather to put light pressure on the carotid arteries to stop oxygen circulation to the brain. So tops, please create a V shape with your hands, which allows the fleshy part of the palm to rest against the oesophagus without causing any obstruction to the windpipe, and press down on the arteries. It’s not about stopping your bottom from breathing completely, but making them lightheaded.

This is very, very important!

Also, please don’t attempt any choking whilst under the influence because your better judgement may be impaired and you can cause some serious damage.

Keep counting,

When my palm meets your ass,

If you lose the counts,

I'll make you regret.

😏😏

Xoxo💚

but are fine with children seeing this

I think freedom of sexuality is something that we all need and very few of us have

I think sexual pleasure is a legitimate thing to want and ethically pursue

I do not judge people for the (consensual) sex that they have or want

I will not tolerate slut-shaming

I will not tolerate hatred of people based on gender or orientation (including asexual)

I will not tolerate hatred of sex workers

I believe comprehensive, honest, non-judgmental sex education is necessary for public health and happiness

I think understanding of sexual consent–what it is, why it matters–is sorely lacking in society and crucially important

I reject preconceptions of what kind of sexuality a person should have, whether these preconceptions are based on gender, age, culture, disability, survivor status, or basically anything else

I value people’s individual freedom of choice in determining their sex lives (including the choices not to have sex)

What I Don’t Mean

Everyone should have sex

Everyone should have kinky, non-monogamous, exhibitionistic, pansexual sex

Accepting someone’s sexuality means you have to participate in it, watch them engage in it, or hear about it in detail

Nothing related to sex is ever hurtful for anyone

Feminism should be all about sex

OP Blocked Me So I Can’t Reblog/Reply So I’m Making My Own Post With Screenshots

Honestly, I just want to plead with y’all to please be careful when it comes to all older cis men on here that act like they’re the/an authority on kink and dynamics with the set in stone BDSM/kink “rules”. They may be nicer, have large followings, and not seem like obvious Tumblr Doms, but that doesn’t mean they’re not still the bad kind of Domly Doms with high and mighty attitudes that spew bullshit on here. 

like, do not touch your s/o in their sleep without consent. do not touch them in public "secretly" without consent. do not spontaneously try to engage them in a kink that they haven't agreed to.

just don't touch people without full, enthusiastic and informed consent.