Rumplestiltskin

yeah. i noticed it first at ComicCon and was like okay maybe she bought into needing to be extra skinny for her wedding even though i would hope she’d be smarter than that … but god damn, that picture?

I have always been naturally skinny.  Yeah, “regular people normal” is not one set size, so fuck you.  My knees are about the same size as my thighs.  I’m 5’5” and weigh 95 pounds.  I usually wear an xsmall or a size 00/0 pants because I get tired of all clothes being too loose on my body.  I am a very boney person, but I eat and am completely healthy!  This is how I have always looked.  THAT DOES NOT MEAN I HAVE AN EATING DISORDER.

Has that fact ever stopped people from saying things to me, like the aforementioned, “For the love of god eat something?”  No, it has not.  My entire life I have had to deal with people saying bullshit like that to me.  Oh, go eat a burger.  OMG you’re too thin you should eat more.  Stop whining that you ate too much, you need more meat on your bones.  Over and over and over and over and over again.

I was 13 years old when I cracked under all that pressure.

You know what never gets talked about but should?  The fact that pressuring someone in that way and assuming that because of how they look, there must be something wrong about how they eat, is massively destructive.  It’s literally no different than complaining to a larger person that they should lose weight, and it hurts just the same.  I was THIRTEEN FUCKING YEARS OLD and it got to the point where I felt that if everyone already assumed I had an eating disorder, I should probably have one.  People made me feel that my body was wrong.  They made me feel that I was somehow unnatural to look the way I do.  And you know, I hated that I had no control over my size, because that’s just the way I naturally am, so I thought that if I made myself sick, at least I would look this way by my own doing.  If people were already making those assumptions about me, I was really just giving them what they wanted.

I was a fucking kid and nobody even noticed what I was doing.  Nobody stopped to help me because they were already living with so many disgusting assumptions about me.  I’m 20 now, but I still get those same comments and those same looks that tell me all I need to know.  

Go eat a burger.

You’re too thin.

People who look like you aren’t real.

I pulled myself out of that hole.  You can never say you’re fully recovered, but I’m as close to that as a person can be.  I eat exactly as much as I should, if not more.  I don’t stare into the toilet and wait for the marker I’ve set to tell me when it’s all out.  I am not afraid of food anymore, and I’m not afraid of how I look. I am not afraid to love myself.  I am so in love with myself and my body, nobody can take that from me any more, and yeah I’m still “underweight” but I am HAPPY AND I AM HEALTHY AND THAT IS ALL THAT SHOULD EVER MATTER.

So fuck you if you think that it is in any way okay to speak about Lana in that way, or to say those massively destructive things to her.  I don’t completely know her on a personal level.  I don’t know what struggles she has gone through in her life.  I can’t say whether or not she has a problem, but that isn’t my place.

You know what the worst things you can do are?  Do not tell her that she’s too thin, that you think she’s losing weight or that she needs to eat more.  For someone with an ED, that just feels like affirmation that you’re doing it right.  For someone without an ED, that’s the biggest stab in the gut you can hear because it’s someone saying to you that you’re in some way wrong.

You think you have some sort of special knowledge about Lana and want to do something? DO NOT DO THAT ^.  Start some sort of Evil Regal body positivity campaign or something.  Do something good to make everyone feel okay about how they look.  BUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD SO NOT SIT THERE AND TARGET THIS POOR WOMAN.

What do you watch when you have time?

I do watch “Revenge,” “American Horror Story" and "Game of Thrones.” I am behind on all of them. [Laughs.] But I do watch them. Those are my go-to shows.

          - Huffington Post (http://huff.to/SowVql)

So now that we’re officially soul mates, what time should I be there?

Side-note from Vicki:

"Where did you two meet?"