NYC, just let me bury my face between your thighs.

Every good girl who wants to try being a slut should have at least one sexual relationship with a man substantially older than her. This list is funny but it’s 100% accurate, and it could be much longer. Older men know how to communicate. They know how to listen and create a sexual experience that is what the little slut wants and needs. They understand mental foreplay.

Everything. Treat women respectfully. Earn and spend money. Travel. Eat. Fuck.

Older men have patience, in and out of the bedroom. Foreplay doesn’t start (or only last) five minutes after you get naked. With us, it often starts hours in advance and never really stops. We understand that your mind and your heart are the most important sexual organs and we know how to expose and nurture them.

Older men want to draw out your pleasure. Not simply so that you can have a bigger, better orgasms (and you will), but because they enjoy watching what they do to you, and how your body reacts. There’s no wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am.

Older men believe in ladies first, and often. Our goal isn’t to simply cum and be done. And even getting that one orgasm out of you is not a goal. We love foreplay, we don’t mind working hard for your orgasms — plural. We take pride when we provide orgasm after orgasm that leaves you shaking, breathless and weak. Personally, I like when you lose count. And believe me… I will make you count them out. I’ll even let you pick the number you want ahead of time. And then I’ll obliterate it, no matter which number you pick.

Older men, in general also have better control over their bodies, whether it’s experience or maturity… we take longer to finish. Older men can give you multiple orgasms, spend hours on foreplay, have sex as long as you want, changing positions fifteen times, and still not have an orgasm of their own.

Young men don’t necessarily grasp that the point of sex isn’t necessarily to get yourself off. For us, sex is about the connection, the intimacy, and the shared pleasure.

For me, cumming is nice, but it’s not necessary for me to have an absolutely amazing time. For me, it’s all about my ability to provide you with pleasure and my absolute command over your experience, whether it’s a quickie or a six hour solid afternoon fuck session.

Recently I reblogged and commented on an Ask that @theruleset answered in which an Anon worried that she ‘missed her chance’ to explore the kink scene because she might have grown too old.

She’s 25.

The reblogs continued, and those in the community who aren’t right out of their teens (nor looking for a partner who is) weighed in with such great feedback! It felt awesome to go through the replies, and to follow their blogs, and to feel something akin to actual representation and visibility on a website and its kink subculture that is overwhelmingly tilted toward the (sometimes uncomfortably, depending on what’s depicted) very young.  Especially when it comes to the women in it.

Got nothing but love for those younger (but legal, of course) in kink, too, and you all deserve an amazing journey as much as any of us, but this particular post is for 30 and up, soooooo:

Please like and reblog this if you’re a Dominant, submissive, or kinkster in your 30s, 40s or older so we can find and support each other, and most of all, increase our visibility on tumblr. :)

(And if you just want to support this post, please feel free to like and reblog, too!)