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Like, listen. We both get talked over by men, it sucks. But I also get talked over by women. I get talked over by everybody. And if I raise my voice to make myself heard, I will get kicked out of whatever workplace or social group because raising my voice one time will be characterised as "scary" and "aggressive". And if I complain about someone talking over me, I will not receive sympathy or commiseration, I will be told that I need to unlearn my male-patterned behaviour of "speaking with the expectation of being listened to", a behaviour I never had anyway because everyone has always talked over me ever since I started speaking.

The same logic applies to any expression of misogyny: I experience the "normal" form, plus a whole lot extra, plus the lack of access to solidarity and support for people who experience misogyny. If I had to put numbers on the contributions to my general misery from each form of oppression I face, *misogyny* would not reach even one tenth of the contribution made by *transmisogyny*, an all-pervading oppression that makes anything like a "normal" life almost impossible.

Today I bought a train ticket from a ticket machine, but when I tried to use it to get through the barrier it didn't work. My first thought was not "I should go and complain about this", it was "Welp, better buy another ticket and hope that one works," because any interaction with a service worker where they can see my face and hear my voice has a high chance of ending in harassment and a decent chance of ending in physical violence.

Some things I wanna make clear because I’m seeing some said repeatedly in the reblogs:

- I’m no longer friends with Friend 2 and I haven’t been for a while, at least couple months. Most of my friend group cut off contact with him too (including Friend 1) after many situations that just made him look creepy, including not being able to set any boundaries (most tries ended up with him throwing a tantrum)

- a big chunk of people is suggesting polyamory in the reblogs, but I wouldn’t expect him to get even one gf, let alone two, given how he finds scared women hot and his favorite trope is “reversed mommy” situation (punishing the woman for dominating you)

- lots of people are also suggesting it’s an egg kinda situation, and I obviously can’t say yes or no to that, but I wanna mention how he once said he wouldn’t mind bottoming for a trans girl and how it’s one of the reasons he considers himself bi. Do with that info what you want

- Friend 1 is trans. Also we’re friends to this day and I love hanging out with her, she’s a diva

Well maybe I don’t WANT to work double as hard as abled people!! Maybe I deserve a BREAK!! Maybe I’ve been working MORE THAN double as hard for MY WHOLE LIFE and it’s led me to immense burnout & caused me to develop several MORE disabilities!! Maybe I should be ACCOMMODATED so I don’t have to KILL MY BODY AND BRAIN over trying to do what abled people can do!! Maybe I DON’T have to work double as hard!! Maybe if there’s the option to let me NOT work double as hard, I should have it, because I’m already working double as hard JUST TO SURVIVE!!