By My Fangs, You Shall Turn

It's almost certainly benign and it is operable, we have a surgery booked in for a couple of weeks from now, but it's a miserable time and they've lost a lot of their mobility and can't do much for themselves any more

We also have reasonable health care so it's not like we're now hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, but the three adults took a week off work each, we spent a few hundred on a wheel chair, a couple hundred on a walker, a couple hundred on other mobility aids, a couple hundred on takeout because the hospital is a few hours from home, a couple hundred on fucking parking, and so on. And we have to do it all again in a couple of weeks.

Which adds up to a huge hole in our normally fairly stable budget

I want to be clear that we probably don't need help, we can probably call in enough favours, eat two minute noodles for a few days, maybe borrow money to make rent, we could survive. But it's just another wildly stressful thing that we don't need whilst trying to support our newly disabled child and help them through the worst few weeks of their life

So if you can help, if you want to help, we would really appreciate it

It's always morally correct to deface advertisements but please be respectful of other peoples art

For the first group the consequences of your actions are real, they're directly related to your action. These rules can be broken only if you accept the risk first, maybe you want a burnt hand idk you do you

For the second group the consequences are imagined and enforced by authority, they aren't directly related to your actions people in power just want you to think they are. You should break these rules as often as you can get away with

All rules can be put into two groups; those that have a real consequence and those that have a manufactured consequence enforced by an authority, right?

Calvin: yeah...

Calvin's dad: don't pirate music? Manufactured. Don't touch the hotplate? Real. Don't walk on the grass? Manufactured. Don't climb into the tigers enclosure? Real.

I have dozens of scars just from living life, that time I dropped a rock whilst doing landscaping and my finger nail never grew back properly, that time I slipped whilst cutting veggies and needed stitches, that time I came off my bike and got a face full of asphalt, but no one sees those scars and makes a concerned face, no one asks if I've stopped being clumsy and doing irresponsible shit because there's no stigma around those scars so they literally don't impact my life at all. What's more they were never really at risk of infection because I could just tell someone what happened and get immediate judgment free medical care with no fear of being institutionalised because I was slightly distracted whilst doing something risky.