The egg came first

Starting from pople tending to turn every story about siblings who are not besties into this huge tragedy instead of awknowledging that maybe, sometimes, people are not close with their siblings. Or that people are so weird about mothers.

But what irks me even more is the tendency to decide that two people who are close in canon have a "sibling coded relationship" which suddenly also means that shipping them together is wrong. Or if a character has an older person in their life whom they look up to - well that is their parent now!!!! They can't fuck their parent!!!!

There is this underlying idea that elevating characters into a familial bond is above such concepts as romantic love or sex. Which sucks because that is not what the concept found family means - it was meant to describe the queer experience of finding your people and community from outside of your blood relatives, and it was never meant to say that there can't also be romantic relationships within that community.

And it is not even always about the fact that I want to ship my blorbo with everyone who comes near him (although I absolutely do), but I think that sometimes there can be meaningful dynamics that are not about family. I want my blorbo to have friends, lovers, partners, mentors, neighbours, a trusted older person who they can call to but is not their parent.

Hhhhhh the idea of the nuclear family as the platonic ideal of all relationships that all types of relationships must mimic is killing me I hate it so much...

Sibling-coded.. sorry please tell me how you replicate growing up right beside someone who you both love and loathe and can never escape and your entire relationship as an adult haunted by your childhood.

so... it's a fun photoshoot, but i'm sure i wasn't the only one scratching my head for what about it was supposed to be victorian - even if it's just victorian-inspired.

I mean, just look at this:

even just limiting our view to women's dress (because it's for sure not men's) and taking the trousers for granted, the silhouette is just not there at all! looking at fashion plates from the era, only at the veeery tail end of the century does the skirt start to slim down a little from pettycoats and bustles. and that loose top, it's just.... it's nothing

so naturally i decided to play some victorian-inspired dress-up with Roman myself

Our first look: inspired by early working women's attire, with a simple shirtwaist blouse and optional maroon wool jacket.

Roman's nobility though, not working class, so he requires fancier fits. Not to worry, we provide.

Our next look includes a twill and velvet bodice, to create an outfit to stroll and be seen in around town

now that's more like it! I love the big puffy 'leg-of-mutton' sleeves that kept coming back this century

And lastly, for those special occasions: the evening gown, styled with pearls, flowers, and lace

the white makes it nearly look like a wedding dress, but just take a look at what dresses in that era actually looked like! honestly this is a very basic dress considering the things they used to wear back then. srry roman but i aint drawing all of that

Hundred Acre Mindscape: Befriending the Woozle

what's your favourite kitchen appliance?

do you have a collection of anything?

what's the best job you've ever had?

what's the worst job you've ever had?

what's your favourite piece of furniture and where did you get it?

what's your go-to recipe when you want to make something that requires minimal effort?

are you married or do you intend to get married?

do you have kids? do you want them?

are you on good terms with your parents?

do you have siblings? do you hang out with them?

do you vote?

what's the biggest purchase you've ever made?

what are your hobbies?

what's a hobby you'd like to get into?

do you collect anything?

how long have you known your oldest friend?

are you a member of any clubs or associations?

have you ever changed fields in your career or education?

how many wisdom teeth do you have and have you had any removed?

what's your favourite beverage?

do you have any living grandparents?

do you have nieces/nephews/godchildren/other kids in your life that aren't yours?

what's the coolest place you've visited?

what's your most recent degree and has it been useful to you?

would you rather own a dishwasher or a laundry machine if you could only have one or the other?

do you make a list before going to the grocery store or just wing it?

what's your favourite household chore?

what chore do you hate the most?

do you have houseplants and how are you at keeping them alive?

Modern AU crack idea with two stylish dudes

Charlie’s cowboys <3