âWhat angers me about so many people, many of them men, is they will not acknowledge the things theyâve done. Thereâs no reason to cancel anybody as long as they can own up to the things theyâve done, examine them, and share their wisdom so that other people may not feel so alone in being a bit of an asshole â because everybody is sometimes. Help people understand why they do things and help people find ways to make it right. Part of me wishes I had done something terrible to someone just so that I could be the example of somebody who stands up and says, âLook, you know what? I was really fucked up during this time, and I did some shit I am not proud of. And you know what? Iâve been thinking about it. This is why I was doing that, this is what I was getting out of doing that. And this is why now that wouldnât work for me, because I have moved beyond that. I have looked at it, I have listened to people, and I have learned, and that wouldnât satisfy me anymore because Iâve grown. Iâm a different person.â But nobody is willing to acknowledge things and just say, 'I fucked up really bad, but thatâs not who I am.ââ
â Fiona Apple
