Words and Thoughts.

この子達は恋人同士かな？

めちゃくちゃ目の前でイチャつかれた😁

your day starts the day before

maintain an early night routine

practice meditation

get the biggest task done first

learn to control your emotions

educate yourself

learn how to delegate tasks

prioritize yourself first

surround yourself with like-minded people

journal or do some form of healthy emotional release

invest in yourself

value your mental and physical health

learn how to manage money wisely

consume uplifting and positive media

make time for yourself and allows space when needed

hone in on your craft daily

prioritize your health

practice mindfulness

be consistent

practice self-discipline and self-control

don't break promises

Hair

Invest in a natural hairbrush- Some of them are hundreds of dollars, but there are plenty affordable options! They’re good for your hair and the environment

Get a silk pillowcase- Might have to save up for this one, but it’ll help your hair and skin!

Stop using hair ties- Claw clips and scrunchies are WAY better for your hair

Gently tie your hair at night- Whether it’s a low, loose bun or braids, protect your hair at night

Use hair oil anytime your hair gets dry

Make sure to get trims to get rid of dry ends

Skin

Use a gentle cleanser and unscented moisturizer- Literally a basic routine with cerave or cetaphil will do WONDERS to your skin

Exfoliate once a week- Don’t over exfoliate!

Stay away from harsh products that might irritate your skin

Use SPF to prevent early aging and skin damage

General

Have a nail routine!- I love to use a nail growth oil, it does wonders!

Make sure to clean under your nails- Some people have really dirty nails and it’s not cute-

Always have a good fragrance- Like a signature scent!

Use a body scrub once a week for soft skin!- Also vanilla lotion smells so good, and lotion helps perfume stick to the body

🌙 Showering - As every witch knows, it’s important to cleanse your space often! A daily shower is a perfect way to cleanse yourSELF! Ritual baths are amazing, but when life gets busy, we don’t always have time to sit and soak. Use your alone time in the shower intentionally. Clean your body while imagining all of the negative energy of the day washing off of you. Use certain soaps or bath products in conjunction with specific intentions. (Rose for universal love, peppermint for wealth, chamomile for purification, etc.) Remember to be intentional in your thoughts as well. Showers are a great place for meditation and manifestation!

🌙 Applying makeup/doing your hair - These are things we typically do in front of a mirror. A mirror is the perfect gateway to connect with ourselves for a bit of reassurance. Use this time to state positive affirmations or mantras.

🌙 Cleaning your home - Cleaning our sacred spaces is another great way to banish negativity and protect our energy. Use certain scents around your home to match certain intentions, and listen to high frequency music while cleaning to keep your energy lifted.

🌙 Falling asleep - If you’re anything like myself, having noise in the background while you’re getting ready for bed can be very comforting. However, it is extremely important to be intentional about the things we watch or listen to, even subconsciously, before laying down. The alpha and theta brainwave states of consciousness we enter before bed are heavily influenced by our surroundings. Try to watch or listen to TV shows or movies with positive or uplifting messages that are light hearted, or even better yet, try guided meditations!

🌙 Working - This one is so much easier said than done. Sometimes when we are working, our mind tends to wander to things we’d rather be doing instead. Alternatively, if you struggle with happiness or contentment at work, try to avert your thoughts into a positive direction. Think about your dream job. Think about how you’ll achieve your career goals, and how what you are doing now will help you progress forward with these motivations. The universe is always listening. Instead of thinking about how you dislike your job, even if you do, instead think about how much you’d LOVE to do your dream job. This will bring you much closer to your end goal a lot more quickly. Always remember: Positive attitude = positive results!

After facing the ups n downs of life, especially after going through a quarter life crisis, I'm increasingly aware that life is sometimes as funny as that. I well remember celebrating my birthday moment when I was in kindergarten, how happy I was when my parents' limitations didn't stop them from trying to make me happy.

Alhamdulillah, now Allah has given various kinds of sustenance in various forms. Alhamdulillaah, that phase also passed, the confused phase when I didn't have friends (which I chose by myself), the sad phase when no one said and realized that my birthday n I was getting bigger, it's funny when I remember it.

How trivial an indicator of my happiness is, even though there are too many blessings of Allah that always surround my life.

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–my therapist

My session today really lightened my load a little bit so I wanted to share something my therapist said as I shared how I was feeling to learn that narcissists wreaked havoc in my life because of my personality traits of codependency. I don’t BLAME myself for someone else’s behaviors, NO! I hold myself accountable for what is true about ME that I ALLOWED things. When I knew I didn’t like it but I went along to “keep the peace” and stuff like that especially with the “best friend” that all these years was NEVER really my “best friend”. No one FORCED me to participate in all the unhealthy connections I had.  My own unhealed traumas played a major part in my choices and a lot of those choices got me here with a SHIT TON of work to do. That doesn’t feel good to say. I’ve cried a couple of times wondering WHY DIDN’T I VALUE MYSELF MORE instead of look for other people to do something I wasn’t doing for myself. I should never have expected anything I wasn’t giving myself to come from anyone else especially not from some damn narcissists!

But a new day to be alive is a new chance to decide differently. To say NO! To implement boundaries. To BELIEVE there ARE more OPTIONS besides, “Sure,” and “OK, no problem,” like, “Not today,” and “That’s not something I can help with, I hope you get it figured out.” Because those responses are fine too. Somewhere along the line, I allowed myself to be convinced that they weren’t so the only way to undo that is to practice responding based on my true feelings.

I think these will be my favorite ones: “No.” and “Nah, I don’t feel like it.” No more concern with someone else’s feelings. Other people’s feelings WERE NEVER OUR RESPONSIBILITY! No more guilt about checking things against my wants and needs. Those wants and needs have to be established and paired with boundaries. I’m going to get the hang of this! I know I am.

I truly thought this Tumblr was going to be total madness towards narcissists that have taken advantage of me. AND IT MIGHT BE SOMETIMES! *LOL* But when I write all that and read it to myself, I start to feel like I need to love myself. I feel sad reading how often I took breadcrumbs which do not feed, nourish or promote growth like bread does.

Discovering La Roche-Posay

la roche-posay toleriane cleanser.

saw this brand around a lot in social media and everyone seems to have good things to say about their products which is fragrance free and targeted towards sensitive skin. so when i was looking for a new cleanser to try after i finished my previous one, i bought this.

it has been a couple of months since i started using this, so far the results are okay, a cleanser basically needs to clean without irritating my skin. this cleanser is gel-like, and there is no foam to it. it does feel soft and texture is nice on my face, but because it doesn’t foam, it does not give me enough slip to use my cleansing tool with it.

i use this in the mornings only, because i want something that does more for night time. this is basic but effective, no irritation and because the tube is so big, it will last a long time for me, so it is pretty cost effective.

Sama halnya jangan sampai kita mematahkan harapan orang lain, ia mungkin sudah kehilangan seseorang atau sesuatu yang sempat ia perjuangkan, tapi tidak dengan harapan, impian dan cita-citanya.

Sebab setiap orang memiliki waktu tersendiri kapan Allah akan menggantikan daun yang pergi dengan tunas yang baru.

Tetap optimis, usahakan yang terbaik dan berdoalah dengan bahasa yang baik. Untuk hasil, serahkan pada pemberi keputusan terbaik.

• People will fail you, they will leave you and treat you as disposable. God is the only one who is constant and will forever be by your side. Prioritizing relationship with Him rather than flawed humans always comes first.

• Realizing that I deserve more and the only person who can give me that is myself.

• Making peace with the fact that l don't fit in with most people and that's ok.

• An enlightened mind can't be controlled. Knowledge is power.

• Feminity and sensuality are part of the core of who I am and I shouldn't feel shame for expressing myself in a sensual way or indulging in my own feminine energy when it's appropriate.

• Social media can be a useful tool for improvement if you use it the correct way, by following the right accounts with the right content that can inspire, motivate, and push me to exceed beyond mediocrity every single day.

• Socializing for the sake of it is overrated. It's preferable to restrain yourself from engaging in social settings with people who are on a different life path from you and who can be a huge burden and detriment to your character as a person by influencing you in wrong ways. Solitude doesn't mean you have to be alone, you can be surrounded by a (the wrong) group of people and still feel lonely.

• The importance of saving my money. Being frugal with my earnings and utilize the money I stack as a means of acquiring future freedom.

• Delaying gratification is a must for any person who is pursuing a path of success. Choosing to disengage with quick and instant pleasures that can be detrimental for personal improvement (like eating junk food, or splurging in unnecessary material things), and instead work on my will power to set boundaries conducive to my goals, purpose and a more meaningful happiness in the long run.

• Class never goes out of style.

• To never speak negativity about myself in any manner, not even jokingly. Your brain often times has a hard time discerning between what's real and what isn't, leading to an eventual internalization of the negative self talk, which translates to self esteem issues and poor mental health.

• The power of saying no without an explanation.

• To be organized with my time and set up my days with hourly deadlines in order to achieve more goals through it and be more productive.

• Romantic relationships that have a dead end are pointless and only leave you with unnecessary emotional baggage as well as soul ties.