leashes and lavender

I think when a sub says "you can do whatever you want to me" what they're actually wanting is to not make decisions anymore, and they think by saying this they can foist the decision making off on the dom without having to do any of the work beforehand. But unfortunately to get to the Not Making Choices part of kink you do in fact have to make a Lot Of Choices beforehand and communicate those choices to your partner. This is an essential part of the process and skipping it is both unsafe and unfair for whoever you're playing with.

cnc somno fantasy, where my kidnapper/stalker has been visiting me regularly to jerk off while I sleep. at a certain point they start using my hand to stroke themselves, entranced by my soft little hands. a while more and they notice I don’t wear much to bed, so once they’ve cum they use it as lube to finger me. they wonder how I manage to stay sleeping, but they start to make a habit of it. eventually they give in to their urges and start gently using my hole— first just as a place to cum after they’ve jerked off, but eventually it’s just too tempting and they sheath themselves fully inside— careful not to move too much to keep me asleep

routine reminder that dominant =/= Dom =/= top and submissive =/= sub =/= bottom