If Iâm not literally perfectly fluent in french by tomorrow Iâm gonna fucking die
stop that.
Iâm certain that youâre a lot stronger in French than what you are giving yourself credit for <3
Not enough
Itâs a process. France isnât going anywhere, so thereâs no sense in making yourself stressed over something that you already swore to do in time.
Except that Iâm practically constantly around French speakers, and Iâm probably going to France next year with them, and they all think Iâm an idiot because every time they say anything to me I panic and act like I donât even know how to conjugate a verb. Except that I know my written and reading fluency is really high but yet I canât say a single sentence without shaking and fucking up so Iâm practically useless.
Sorry to interrupt, I stumbled upon your post accidentally, and I just wanted to say: donât worry!Â
Iâve been learning French for almost 11 years, and I still make mistakes when speaking. I am currently in France, living with French family, and you know what? They donât care at all if you make mistakes. In fact, they are super happy if youâre able to speak just a few words. Iâve never been confident with my French (my friend @learnfrenchquicklyandeasily can conform this), and still I somehow manage to have amazing conversations here.Â
Iâve encountered that itâs pretty normal to be better at reading/writing than at listening/speaking. Pretty much my whole class knows this problem, and weâre at level C1. Itâs totally normal to have better writing skills. However, you will improve your speaking skills quickly once you are in France.Â
Donât think about it too much and enjoy your time in France next year. Itâs really amazing, and youâll see that there is nothing to worry about. đđ«đ·
I donât care if itâs natural I just want to be perfect and itâs fucking rediculous that I canât talk even though Iâve spent the last year agonizingly perfecting my grammar and teaching myself tenses for nothing
Itâs not that I CANâT say anything or CANâT form sentences, I simply canât force myself to talk. Itâs like I go mute
I was exactly like you. Iâve discovered that no matter how hard you study grammar, it doesnât automatically improve your speaking skills. That may sound depressing but in the end, spoken French relies on so much more than perfect grammar, and there is a huge difference between spoken French and written French (in terms of vocabulary, sentence structure, grammar etc.) On the other hand, it relies on so much less than people think it does.Â
What is your current level of French? The other exchange student at my host familyâs house started on level A1 and within a few weeks reached level A2, almost B1. His grammar is far from perfect, but he has improved SO MUCH and he never encountered any real problem or misunderstanding even though our host family doesnât even speak English (apart from a few basic sentences).Â
As I said, donât worry about it too much. Some of my friends are native speakers of French and they have never heard me speaking, because like you, I couldnât force myself to talk. The situation in France is a lot different, though. I know it sounds hard but just try to be patient. With time and practice, your French will gradually improve even if you might not notice it initially.Â
I havenât actually taken the test but judging by the way theyâre described and the materials, B2-C1. It wasnât an official DELF test but Iâve gotten B2 before and recently was described as an âadvanced learnerâ on another but I donât really know the frame of reference or what that meansâŠespecially when neither tested speaking or listening and focused on grammar, vocabulary, and reading comprehension
Hii :) learning languages can be frustrating. I can't relate to this in terms of French as it is my mothertongue, however, I had a similar situation in Spanish where I couldn't get myself to talk other than basic sentences in class. Similarly to @decouvertes-francaises, I went to the country of my target language and it helped greatly to learn how to express myself and was a massive confidence boost. (also I can confirm I haven't heard @decouvertes-francaises talk French yet but I know that France is helping them gain confidence and we are now messaging in French :D) It is frustrating when your fluency levels and reading/writing levels do not match up, but they rarely do for anyone. Native language speakers might have the opposite situation where they can talk, but have difficulty writing. Stay at it and I hope that your stay in France in the future will help you gain confidence!! You can do it!!!











