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This is a guide for girls wanting whale daddies and long term relationships or to live like a Russian IT girl. This is for girls who are interested in the jetset lifestyle. Yachts, parties, international travel and galas.Who want to do more than date men.This is by no means easy. And not for the faint of heart

1. You

You are your biggest investment. And if you want investment then you invest in yourself!!!!You’re much more likely to go to a store that is clean and presentable cause it shows they’ve actually put effort into making the place look decent for customers. Same with you.

You are best your asset so read the following

2. Your look

Looks matter. But you don’t have to be beautiful, just attractive and captivating. We all like things that appeal to our senses. Notice how some dudes have fetishes for legs, heels, tight dresses and long hair, that’s how powerful the physical is!

Ideally, you are likely to be a show stopper, luxurious flowing hair, good skin, you look amazing in your fitted clothing and your body looks great. You dress to accentuate your best features. You do not neglect details and your nails,makeup and scent are on fleek. You look expensive and alluring.

3. Career

A lot of your mega successful SB’s hide behind their businesses and careers.Most successful men are career driven so this is a fairly easy way to meet them & owning a business no matter how small gives you endless excuses to go to networking events and business socials all over the globe.

 Any job can be turned into a goldmine Here are some industries and careers you can look into.

Real estate/property

Makeup and fashion

Chef and waitress

Realtor, designer

Personal shopper

Air hostess

Dancer and musician

Hair stylist

Adult entertainment(stripping for example)

Personal assistant

Oil and gas industry

Hostess

Jobs in business district

4. Socialize

Socializing is at the heart of everything. Knowing the right people is essential if you want to get invited to a yacht party in France.

A lot of these sites are trashy and the men have no tangible assets. It is not like it used to be. These men often do not live lavishly. Do what Russian women do and go outside. They practically plant their selves where rich guys are. They’re not sat down waiting for a inbox message. Its basic mathematics, the more options, the more chance you stand of getting what you want. Your social life needs to be a daily thing. You could

Go to auctions

Exclusive nightclubs

Take art classes

Volunteer

Get involved with local politics

Visit country/ private members clubs

Investment seminars

Dine and drink in exclusives wealthy areas

Learn sailing, assistant, skiing, tennis, golf

Black tie events- make an effort to go to galas, races and balls

Opera, galleries, theater and ballet

Move, travel and or live a wealthy area

Gyms in rich areas

Dance classes -some rich folk love to dance

Art classes

Hotel bars

Upscale supermarkets

5. Perceived value

You need to be good at something. It is a market place out here. We are conditioned to want the best and be surrounded by it. And when you’re someone who is successful, you’re gonna be drawn to success in others

Put yourself and talents on the limelight. If you are beautiful and tend to stand out, act as if you are the perfect eyecandy. Maybe you are domineering and bossy which may be a good thing for someone tired of having their ass kissed all day.Maybe you are super intelligent and a real  delight to a hardcore scholar.If you are super funny and nice to be with, show it off. Own the hell out of your skills and best attributes and you’ll attract the right people, It has been proven time and time again that’s there’s no real different between some expensive brands and regular ones. Only the perceived value.

Your reputation, attributes and persona makes your perceived value. act royal , get treated royal

6. Fit in

Ancient courtesans groomed their selves to fit in with the upper echelon. They would train for months to years. Nobody questioned their motives cause did what the rich did and as a result became one of them. They were often accepted into the toughest of circles and able to gain access to wealthiest of men for this reason.

Learn luxury living inside out. Learn about watches, cars, property and expensive and fancy shit.Eat what the rich eat if you can afford to. Go where they go. Party where they party. Read what they read.Don’t lie and say you’re accustomed to luxury living when you don’t know your Chanel from Cartier. Which brings me to….

7. Etiquette

Learn how to speak, act and present yourself. Learn your basic etiquette. You’ll be amazed at how simple things can be perceived as rude or classless.Always be learning and be in motion. Learn several subjects and do courses. Expand your vocabulary.

8. Social skills

You need to master social skills from eye contact to tone of voice. You need or be an amazing conservator. You need to learn how to diffuse tension.You need to be friendly and approachable, You need to be able to discuss some topics with  passion at any one time.

Then you can move on to heavier things like manipulation, seduction and persuasion.

9. You

1. Set The Level High

You have to create a framework, an atmosphere, a world where endowing and financial support of your girlfriend is a normal thing.

How you teach him in the beginning of your relationship, that’s how he will behave further on. 

After a couple of weeks, start telling him how your girlfriend is traveling to Miami often with her boyfriend, cause he has an apartment there. 

Or something like “last week he surprised her totally and bought her an identical Versace swim wear she had lost last time they were in Miami”. 

Or “this friend of mine, you know, she is crazy about shoes, luckily she found a man who loves her enough, and understands her shoe passion, so he often buys her that stuff…” 

So, always start with the stories about your girlfriends, never about yourself, because it will seem obvious. 

Wear or bring the most expensive or breath-taking items of clothes you possess and wait for him to ask where you got it, or where you bought it blah, blah.. 

You answer that it is from your boyfriend, or you don’t know where it is from cause your boyfriend gave it. 

Or, next time, it is I bought it in Paris, so international shopping is a normal thing for you.

Talk about nice trips to other continents like it is something absolutely normal to you, like going to a local supermarket. 

He has to treat you like that too, cause you are used to being pampered.

For you it is just natural to have men around craving to spend their money and attention on you. THAT is the picture you have to put inside his brain.

Present yourself as a gentle, caring, good girl that likes to have nice things surrounding her, and a nice life in general. 

„Life is too short for not having beautiful things.“

Share stories where he has to learn that love is about sharing

2. The “I Love Fashion“ Narrative:

No matter whether you love cars, dishes or violins, you have to emphasize it to your boyfriend. Not aggressively, but lightly and persistently. 

He has to be aware how much you love something, in order to buy it. 

„I know I will sound like a Barbie, but when I see all my shoes, I really feel happy and feminine.“

„You know, CHANEL has existed for more than 1 century, imagine all that style and tradition!“ That is why I appreciate it so highly! 

Say how bored you are with the men and women who are obsessed by Louis Vuitton, like there aren’t other classy designers, like our Marc Jacobs.

3. Sob Stories

When you meet your MM, be all sad and passive. When he asks you what’s happening, don’t say anything, just sigh sadly and say it’s nothing, and that you will solve it. 

When he asks you again, repeat that it is something you have to solve on your own. Then continue with the sadness. 

When he continues to insists what is happening with you, start crying (if you can’t, practise at home, or at least make the most tragic face you can) 

DON’T ASK FOR HELP! He has to offer it. When he does it, act surprised, like you haven’t ever expected him to do something so nice for you… If he doesn’t offer his help, he is not a real MM, and dump him

Mention to him that you saw a wonderful dress in the mall, but you don’t have money to buy it, and now you are feeling sad. 

When he offers to give you the money, and ask how much is it, double the price. If it’s $400, say it is $800. Buy the dress, wear it the same night and keep the change. 

If you date more then one tell both men your dating you saw a wonderful fur coat, but it is so expensive ($7000) that you cannot afford it, and now you feel unhappy. Make them both give you money, buy yourself a fur coat, and keep $7000.

4. Show your Appreciation

You have to present the situation where he buys stuff to you as natural, never be too ecstatic about it, or ungrateful. 

Always smile, say thank you and praise him for being a great guy and a great boyfriend for “doing all these nice things for you”, for “understanding your passion towards fashion” 

Avoid the verb to buy, to shop etc… He is not buying you stuff, he is doing stuff for you, he is making you happy, he is understanding your love towards style 

it will become like a drug to him. He will feel more manly when he buys stuff for you, and every time he does it, you will be a grateful woman who will boost his ego. 

5. Boost His Ego

All she did was boosting his ego. she loves his being such an alpha male, how she feels safe by him. As soon as she would start going on on his virtues, he would get wood – no matter if they are in bed or restaurant.

Always be gentle, caring, nice to every MM you date. Always hug them, talk about their characteristics – because the favourite topic of every person is they themselves. 

Say that you have noticed he is ambitious, or shy, or that you see he knows how to handle people, or that he is smart etc.

after sex, when he is naked and vulnerable, hug him and tell him, in a very serious and honest tone of voice, that he set up a new standard what a man should be. Trust me, works every time

Men just have the need to be the one, the best, the man who showed you what a real man is. Tackle their ego. 

6. Pass His Tests To Keep Him (and his money)

Usually, MMs do this when they fall in love, when we become meaningful to them. Then, they start to self-reflect and wonder whether we love them or not

Once he gets the impression that you are really devoted to him he will buy even more. One MM of mine, once tested me for 3 months! I was cool about it, and after that I got a Rolex watch 

While he is testing you, you can always go and search for another MM, just in case.

The longer you stay with MM, the more he will share with you. Because he will have more trust, more love, and more confidence in your relationship.

St Barth’s

Hotel Les Ondines

·       Shell Beach ·       Toiny beach ·       Marigot beach ·      

Hotel Eden Rock

·   

Hotel Christopher

·       Quai du Yacht Club

·       Bête à Z'Ailes,

·       La Plage,

Do not miss a chance to do some scuba diving, swimming, snorkeling, deep sea fishing and water skiing on the beautiful Island.

Cannes/St Tropez

·       The Majestic Barriere

·       3.14 The Beach

·       The Eden Roc Hotel

·       Le Baoli

·       The VIP Room

·       The Nikki Beach

·       Le Musée de l’Annonciade

·       Pampelonne Beach

·       Pan Dei Palais

·       Papagayo Club

Singapore

·       Marina Bay Sands

·       Botanic Gardens

·       Orchard Road

·       The National Museum of Singapore,

·       Clarke Quay

·       Raffles Hotel

·       The Chinese Garden,

·       Mandarin Oriental

Switzerland

·      

Grand Hôtel du Lac

·       Sils Maria

·       St Moritz

·       Dolder Spa

·       Clouds

·       Srpüngli Confiserie

·       Bahnhofstrasse

Paris

·       l'avenue des champs-Elysees

·       Opéra Garnier

·       Flûte bar

·       Patrick Roger

·       Fouquet’s Barrièrre Palace hotel

·       Place Vendôme

·       Shangri-la Palace hotel.

London

·       The Dorchester.

·       Rosewood hotel

·       The Montcalm

·       The  Corinthia Hotel

·       Sexy Fish restaurant

·       Zuma

·       The Mayfair Hotel

·       Tramps nightclub

·       Harvey Nichols

·       Raffles

·       The Sanderson hotel

·       Hakkasan

·       Nobu

·       Boujis

·       Libertine

·       Mahiki

·       Cirque le soir

Monaco

·       Oceanographic Museum

·       Monte Carlo Harbor

·       Jardin Exotique

·       Casino of Monte Carlo

·       Larvotto beach

·       Le Metropole shopping center

·       Opera de Monte Carlo

Miami

·       Millionaire’s Row on Miami Beach.

·       Miami Beach Golf Course

·       Bayside Marina

·       Coconut Grove

·       Miami Beach Marina

·       Wynwood Art Walk

·       Mandarin Oriental

·       Bal Harbor

Las Vegas

·       The Strip

·       Casino at Bellagio

·       V Theater

·       Pallazo resort casino

·       Fred Leighton

·       Bellagio gallery of fine art

Dubais

·       Dubai Museum

·       Mall of the Emirates

·       Dubai Creek

·       Jumeirah Beach hotel

·       Emirates Towers

Lovely🐏🐑🐐♥️

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

From a book called Sexing the Cherry by Jeanette Winterson:

Let him have his boys nights. Be soft and yielding to his face but have a spine of steel. There is no need to reveal too much about yourself, because he thinks he knows you inside and out. Then, allow him to see a glimpse of another aspect of yourself. If you’re always sugar-sweet, show a sad side or an unexpected streak of cruelty. If you’re always aloof, pretend at vulnerability for just a moment.

I have been with my current SD Red for almost a year and a half now. We have been through a lot of ups and downs because he is married. But I think our arrangement has developed into a strong friendship and relationship. Because of Red, I have been able to travel to Punta Cana with friends, New Orleans, San Francisco, Florida, and soon Canada. I’ve been able to have plastic surgery (breast implants), get a new car (soon), pay for school courses, help out my family, spoil my friends, pay off my credit cards twice now, been given gifts (MacBook Air, Beats, Prada bag, LV), etc. I’m extremely thankful for everything I have received from my SD.

So I wanted to share some tips on how to hustle to get the most out of your arrangement and also some tips on maintaining your hustle as a long-term sugar baby. Most sugar arrangements only last a few months because any number of reasons (SDs’ work schedules and work traveling conflicts, age and maturity differences, differing allowance expectations, finding other SBs/SDs, SB choosing to date traditionally or settle down, etc.). Hopefully you dolls find these insights helpful for your sugar hustle :)

COMPANIONSHIP:

-Time with your SD should be stress-free and carefree. Your SD probably has a lot of stressors in his life (work, kids, wife), and he looks to you to be his “escape.” I remember one of the last times I hung out with Red that he was visibly disappointed that he had to leave me early to go run an errand his wife requested. Being with a sugar baby means being with someone who can make you forget about your real everyday life. Do your best to be positive, happy, and funny when you’re with your SD. He has enough drama in his real life. I’ve never gotten visibly angry with my SD because he’s said before how his wife can be a bitch and has anger issues. The last thing you want to do is remind him of his wife.

-But do be real with your SD. Red and I share similar family dysfunctions when it comes to our families. We open up to each other and discuss family issues. I read about another SB who basically said you need to be happy 24/7 around your SD, and I don’t think that’s always the case. You’re a real person who has real issues too. You can’t be expected to be a robot, you have to be authentic. I’m not saying to make your SD your personal therapist and have crying sessions. But sharing some of the problems in your life shows you’re a real person and this communication connects you two emotionally. Relating to your SD despite your age, maybe race, and socioeconomic differences can only help strengthen your bond.

KEEPING THINGS SPICY SEXUALLY:

-Buy lingerie and model it for your SD. You get to be your sugar daddy’s ultimate fantasy. Chances are, any sex is great sex to men (lets be real here). But you want to ensure you keep your sugar daddy satisfied so he doesn’t go looking for a side sugar baby, or drop you altogether. I like buying inexpensive Yandy lingerie online and surprising my SD with outfits. Send your SD “sneak peak” or “preview” pictures to indulge him and get him really excited for your next meet. Men are visual creatures. Try out different looks (school girl outfit, really trashy looking body stockings, teddys, bras and undies) to keep your SD on his toes and intrigued with what you’ll be wearing next. Don’t wear lingerie each time you see your SD though, you naked works just as well sometimes.

-Research and practice. Read AskMen or Cosmo (sometimes questionable) or the Kama Sutra for new sex positions or sex tips. You can also bring sex toys into the bedroom (whips, handcuffs, vibrators, dildos) to keep things interesting. If you’re not into sex toys, try different flavored lubes, whip cream, syrups. Just be sure to clean up after! You don’t want to leave any marks or residue on your SD when he has to leave to head home. 

-Give good blowjobs. I cannot stress having a good head game enough. Men will literally turn to putty in your hands. Watch porn or read online technique posts for inspiration.

-Practice safe sex. My SD and I still use condoms when we have penetrative sex. Sometimes I get the feeling that he doesn’t want to, but he always does. You can’t risk your sexual health for any amount of money. A lot of men from the older generation seem to be uninformed about current STIs, birth control, etc. So educate yourself and educate your SD too.

-Dress to impress. Sometimes you can be sexy without even trying. I wore fishnet tights underneath a tight skirt with a loose top on a date with my SD. I thought my outfit was fairly relaxed. But Red said he couldn’t stop staring at my legs and still thinks about that outfit to this day. You can be unintentionally sexy and leave a lasting impression with just one outfit piece.

KEEPING THINGS INTERESTING CONVERSATIONALLY:

-People love to talk about themselves. I’ve taken a few psychology and sociology courses and I learned that people are very egocentric by nature. So asking your SD an open-ended question about HIMself, HIS work, HIS family, HIS hobbies, his cars, his interests etc., and then asking follow-up questions off that is a sure way to keep the conversation flowing.

-There are always safe topics. If you can’t seem to find the words, you can always refer back to safe topics like your day, his day, your school, his work, his family, your family, summer plans, plans together, talk about the food you’re eating, weather. Or just smile and flirt if all else fails! 

-Deeper conversations show maturity and intelligence. I also like to have somewhat deeper conversations with my SD about policy (minimum wage, cost of college, wealth disparity in this country), politics, family, relationships, marriage, religion, etc. People are complex individuals and I just enjoy learning about people’s thoughts and lives. It’s fun for me to pick the brain of someone twice my age who is successful, a white male, intelligent (Ivy league educated), and married. 

-Cherry picking is a conversational technique. It’s pretty useful in keeping a conversation going. You can read more about it here. I think I first read about cherry picking in a psychology/dating book. You’ll have much better active listening skills once you practice this too.

HOW I HUSTLE:

-The “planting the seed” hustle. I was able to get my SD to agree to a boob job, and now a new $20k car among other great gifts by “planting the seed.“ You don’t want to come right out and ask your SD for something big out of nowhere. I wouldn’t plan a whole speech or sitting your SD down at dinner and asking him point blank. He will feel ambushed and most likely say no. I would first bring up what I wanted casually and jokingly in conversation while we were having fun at dinner, or in private. You have to choose the “right” moment to bring it up initially and then continue to “water” and “feed” what you planted in his mind :)

-The “benefits you too” hustle. For my boob job, I didn’t even know I wanted one until I thought it would be cool to get big boobs one day. I decided to bring it up with my SD while we were being intimate (it’s hard to say no to a girl sucking your penis). My SD said he would think about it, but he soon said yes. I was able to sell him on me getting boobs because he gets to enjoy them too! My SD even said that he really liked the idea of buying me boobs because he got to be with the young/innocent (aka flat chested me), and then the bombshel/slutty (aka big boobed me). I also pointed out that getting me a car benefits my SD because I’ll be able to drive to him now when we meet. He agreed and said he didn’t think of the benefit to him before. The best sales people make you think you need to buy whatever it is they’re selling. So hustle smart, not hard.

LASTLY… -No doesn’t mean no. My SD has told me no before when I’ve asked for things. But no doesn’t necessarily mean no. My SD has changed his mind before on things I’ve asked for. It never hurts to ask again, and the worst thing your SD can say is no. Do not be resentful because your SD will be as generous as you are with him. 

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