Somewhere, Somehow

Welcome to my blog!!

If you used to or still do follow @bendthekneeforthyqueen I've created this as my backup for when tumblr inevitably deletes that one lol

This blog is something I do for fun, a low pressure place for me to post pictures of myself and share things about d/s and sex in general that I enjoy or am curious about.

I am a switch, but I tend to lean toward domme. There are times I am feeling more subby, but they tend to be few and far between.

I’m always open to meeting new folks and making new friends, so don’t be afraid to send asks or DM me! If you go on a like/reblog spree please know I love you!!! 😘 😘

That being said, here are some rules for DMing me:

Do not send me unsolicited genital pics or nudes or NSWF pics. It’s not cute, and it’s going to get you blocked.

Be polite and respectful! Get to know me! Friendliness will get you much further than abruptly coming into my inbox being lewd and rude.

Don’t open with “hey slut” or “hey daddy” or “want to be my slave?” because no, I don’t and I’m going to block you. Just be respectful goddamnit and get to know me first!

Because it bears repeating: do not call me daddy without permission!!

I am not your therapist, girlfriend or mother—don’t treat me as such.

If you’re interested in playing with me:

We will need to have an in depth discussion about kinks, limits, safewords, etc.

You will approach me respectfully and get to know me before anything like a scene happens. I do not play with complete strangers.

I don’t play with people in relationships. Hard limit, no exceptions.

I do not play with anyone under the age of 25.

You will be a responsible, mature adult and be able to communicate clearly your needs and wants. You will practice self care and respect boundaries both for yourself and for others.

This blog is a minors do not interact blog, so please put your age in your bio!!

If you like my content and wanna help a poor grad student out, my cashapp is https://cash.app/$bendtheknee4thyqueen

Be safe, be well,

I think he knows. I’ll ask him to re-confirm ;)

As for you wanting to not lead a vanilla life: resenting your life and your partner won’t change the situation. Action will.

You should help your wife, actually.

I only really got into the more filthy parts of this more dominant and out of the ordinary lifestyle, if you will, because of who I’m with and how open minded he is. I was already super attracted to him and cared about him a lot so when he introduced me, sort of, to this style of playing, it sounded fucking hot to me at first because I was so deeply attracted to him that pleasing him was like, all I wanted to do. There’s nothing quite like being so into someone and loving them that you want to make everything as pleasurable as possible. And though he’d only dabbled in this stuff, it just fucking fit for us. He was actually far, far more on the other side of this before me.

Then, when we first started fucking around with me in charge, 1. It just came so naturally to me. Even if I’m shy at first. I get shy briefly about a few things and then I do them, I realize how fucking fun it is, and then am at ease with it. So much of it is so hot once you get going. And 2. There is nothing hotter than being with a man who is very much a man, in all the right ways and who is extremely comfortable with his own sexuality- oh! and knowing how fucking sadistic and dominant he was - and then having him be THAT vulnerable with me? Fucking hell.

There’s something so insanely hot about having such a gorgeous, smart, funny guy who is so sure of himself and so deliciously manly letting me do very dirty things to him. It’s such a turn on that he allows himself to be so open and vulnerable that it adds so much fucking sexiness you it. Especially because it’s only me he’s being this vulnerable and trusting with. No one before me. Just me. And that makes it even hotter!

Technically, there’s nothing to stimulate me when pegging him. But it’s so goddamn hot that you’d only have to watch to see that I have the time of my life when I fuck him. I sound like I could cum any minute when I fuck him because I’m just so into it. I know this because we now have it on video and we are hot as hell.

There’s also something super sexy and super intimate about doing these things together. And like I said, especially knowing that he’s only doing it with me, and I him. Neither of us have been like this, done all these things with anyone else. There’s so many firsts to enjoy together, and it’s a journey of trying new, fun, naughty stuff. That’s it’s own aphrodisiac.

Anyway, my point is, talk to your wife. Introduce the concepts of whatever it is you’d like to do with her. Tell her to have an open mind and you’ll go as slow as she needs you to. Show her a few videos of pegging on the subreddit “pegging unkinked”. That’s how it started for me. It can be extremely intimate and so fucking hot. It can be whatever you two want it to be. You guys design your sex life. And be patient. Work your way up. I still haven’t done half the things I post about but I will. We will. In time.

But you’ve got to put in the work and effort to get her to do the things you want. Respect it if she says no. But if you guys are good together, she should be open to listening and trying.

An Update on the Tumblr iOS App

For those of you who access Tumblr through our iOS app, we wanted to share that starting today you may see some differences for search terms and recommended content that can contain specific types of sensitive content. In order to comply with Apple’s App Store Guidelines, we are having to adjust, in the near term, what you’re able to access as it relates to potentially sensitive content while using the iOS app.

To remain available within Apple’s App Store, we are having to extend the definition of what sensitive content is as well as the way you access it in order to comply with their guidelines. To learn more about Apple’s App Store Guidelines, click here.

How you may experience these changes

There are three main ways you may experience these changes while using our iOS app: search, blog access and dashboard.

Search

When searching for certain terms or phrases that may fall under the expanded definition of sensitive content, you may experience fewer results from that query than you have in the past. In certain circumstances, a search may not produce any results at all and you will see a message like the one below:

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Blog access

If you tap on a blog through the iOS Tumblr app that is flagged as explicit due to these changes, you will see the same message as above and will not be able to access that blog.

Dashboard

For iOS users, under our “stuff for you” and “following” sections within the dashboard, you may see fewer suggested posts based on the changes being made.

To learn more about these changes and how you may experience them, please visit our Help Center article here.

Why these changes are being made

We want to make sure Tumblr is available everywhere you would like to access it. In order for us to remain in Apple’s App Store and for our Tumblr iOS app to be available, we needed to make changes that would help us be more compliant with their policies around sensitive content.

We understand that, for some of you, these changes may be very frustrating – we understand that frustration and we are sorry for any disruption that these changes may cause. Please know that on the near horizon there will be meaningful developments that will overhaul how you choose to access sensitive content safely on Tumblr – whether visiting us on mobile, mobile web or through our website.

Who this impacts

These changes will only impact those who are accessing Tumblr through the iOS app. If you are using our Android app, accessing Tumblr through mobile web or online through www.tumblr.com, your experience will not be impacted.

How long this will last

While we don’t have an exact timeline for how long these changes will be in effect, we are working on additional features that will allow for a less restricted iOS app experience. We anticipate this work to be ready in the near future and we will keep you all updated on our Changes blog as that work continues.

For more information on our guidelines or to understand these changes more fully, please visit:

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