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What if you could take a pill everyday and it would change your life by 1%. Over time that would build up, right? Wouldn’t your life be significantly different in 341 days?

This is how I imagined cutting alcohol out of my life would be like. Sobriety became like this ‘magic pill’ for me. Except I had this preconceived notion that change would feel good.

When you spend so much time drinking, having fun, dealing with hangovers and spending money on one thing, a feeling may eventually come that questions why you even drink alcohol at all. Is it really that good? And parting ways with it can be hard, especially if you’re not interested in seeing another way of living. If you’ve ever had that thought in the back of your mind, but pushed it away, then this might feel familiar.

Well, 341 days ago I took that magic pill, daily. And one thing I can say is that, it’s definitely a different life.

The first few months were honestly bliss. I got into great shape and had energy I had not felt since my early 20s. Socialising sober brought this new confidence in me. It was loads of dating, having fun, and enjoying the novelty of such change.

But things change over the course of months. And you start to understand more and more of why alcohol was actually there to begin with.

I think a big part of why we drink excessively, or feel so attached to alcohol, is because it distracts us from something deeper. Maybe anxiety, maybe stress, maybe just a discomfort you don’t want to sit with. And You might know that feeling is there, but you dismiss it.

Once alcohol was removed, I stopped dismissing it.

Quitting Alcohol Gives You More Presence

I didn’t realise how much I relied on distraction until I removed one of my biggest ones. Everything can be a distraction; cigarettes, sex, scrolling, food, constant noise. And alcohol was one of mine.

Without it, I had no choice but to be more present. And presence isn’t always peaceful, it can actually feel uncomfortable. But it also feels honest.

For me, being present looks like actually noticing what I’m feeling, instead of immediately trying to change it. Giving it space, even if I don’t fully understand it yet.

If you’re someone who always needs something on in the background, or something to take the edge off: Just sit with yourself, without reaching for anything. Notice what comes up.

In this space, we can find out a lot about ourselves.

Being Okay With Discomfort

I thought quitting alcohol would mean more productivity, more hobbies, more energy 24/7. And while some of that is true, there’s another side to the coin.

You feel everything more. Anxiety, stress, overthinking… none of that magically disappears. But the difference is, you stop avoiding it.

Removing alcohol forced me to face parts of my life I used to escape from. And that’s uncomfortable, but I realised, it’s also where change actually happens.

There will probably be moments when you think about having a drink. Even just one moment.

Instead of immediately acting on it, pause and ask yourself:

What am I actually feeling right now?

Is it stress? A lack of excitement? Loneliness?

What do I actually need in this moment?

Say it out loud. Name it.

And sometimes, the best thing you can do is text or call someone. You don’t have to do it all alone.

Finding Joy and Excitement

I used to associate alcohol with fun. The kind of fun that’s chaotic, spontaneous, dramatic. I loved it. Like random nights where you end up somewhere unexpected, and everything feels heightened, you feel alive.

Without alcohol, that kind of fun changes. It becomes quieter. More calm. Less intense, but also more real.

And I won’t lie, I’m still figuring this part out. I’m still trying to find what gives me that “alive” feeling in a different way. But I’ve realised that joy doesn’t always have to be loud to be meaningful. If anything, it feels more sustainable, and genuine, this way.

Building Genuine Connection Through Authenticity

Even if you enjoy your own company, there’s something really important about connection. I’m a complete introvert, but without alcohol, I’ve noticed I’m more open. More willing to be vulnerable. And vulnerability creates a different kind of connection, one that actually feels real. Because to be vulnerable, means to have the courage to show who you actually are, the good, but also our insecurities and fears.

I have made so many new friendships this year, and none of them are based around alcohol. They have grown organically from deeper feelings of honesty, support and acceptance.

And I realised, thats the difference. Real connection means something.

Dating with Intention

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with going for drinks on a date. I still do it, and I enjoy it to be honest (with a zero). But I’ve noticed that without relying on alcohol, everything slows down. Even with just one person not drinking, can have that impact. And that can feel more authentic.

But I do find that sober dates, like coffee or food, have a completely different energy. Because there’s no blur. And without that blur, you notice more. What feels right, what doesn’t, what’s actually there. You might also find you have less tolerance for things that don’t feel genuine.

It’s not about being serious, it’s just about being more intentional.

Self Acceptance

There’s something deeply rewarding about finally doing the thing you’ve been putting off for so long. Especially when it’s hard. Because you learn a lot about yourself when you go through it.

And yes, you can learn a lot about yourself by taking a “pill” for 11 months straight. The good, the bad, the uncomfortable parts.

But over time, I’ve started to question that too. What if it’s not about labelling things as good or bad? What if it’s just about understanding yourself a bit more each day?

11 months without alcohol has been challenging, but also the best 11 months of my life.

Not because it fixed everything. But because it stopped me from avoiding everything. And that’s where things actually started to change. I still think of it as a pill. But it’s not magic, and it’s not always easy.

i don't see my future as never drinking again. I still want a glass of wine on special occasional, like Christmas. But my relationship with it has changed. One drink feels enough. I don't have that same desire to escape anymore.

And I think that was the whole point.