Also that meme that's three stick figures "You talking about a negative opinion you have > The guy you want to hit (with a shield) > Your friend who now knows that you look down on them"!!
If you say 'trans men can't be lesbians' or "you don't see trans women in gay male spaces" uhhhh yeah?? You do?? Achillean transfemmes exist and are VALID. There are plenty of trans women in gay bars or on Grindr that don't identity as straight despite being women who like men.
When you deny the idea that androphobia exists and men aren't oppressed for being men, you alienate nonpassing transfemmes who are often hyper aware of their masculine traits and do face violence for "being men."
When you use cunt/pussy as insults that's just misogynistic. Which obviously makes women feel unsafe around you, but also when you insult transmasc genitalia, you're also insulting the genitalia of trans women who have vaginas! Some who have period (symptoms) and hormonal fluctuations and cramps.
When you insult trans men who don't pass, you're showing your own transphobic bias and trans women who don't pass aren't going to trust you if you think or act like passing is the end all be all of transness or that not passing is a moral failing... Yeah nonpassing trans women will be uncomfortable.
When you are intersexist or erosexist your intersex and nonbinary transfemme siblings SEE that shit, they KNOW you look down on them for being cafab or genderfluid or - and no gender or sex existentialism isn't both intersexist and erosexist; acting like trans men are horrible/abusive/predatory/misogynistic 'because they are men' or worse 'because they take T' (which a non small number of trans men... don't have access to...) like.
You're hitting the TERF checklist. There's no other way to put it. You're erasing intersex people with varied characteristic, you're ignoring nonbinary people with varied identities and personal traits, you're using rhetoric that is still being used against transfemmes RIGHT OUTSIDE THE WINDOW.
When you insult tdicks or micropenises or 'mishapen' genitals, guess who can also have varied genitals? Trans women! Especially intersex trans women!
Every "T will make you fat and ugly" bounces right off the BearBeliever Transmasc who WANTS to be fat and ugly and it fucking hits a trans girl who feels like she'll never be a woman because she has a strong jawline (like many cis women do) or because she has stubble (like many cis women do) or because she has a bald spot (like many cis women do) or make her feel like she needs to lose weight in order to "pass" which is difficult for SO MANY bodily systems, but especially estrogen based systems.
Every "testosterone makes you angry and a threat" also hits women who can't access E, who can't give up the safety of boymoding, who are already muting themselves and their interests and their presence, women who are too scared to use the bathroom in public because what if someone thinks that about them? You're also hitting trans women who are rightfully angry and upset over the state of the world and constantly being told "It's all that gross testosterone in your body.
Every insult of transmasculine attire or their hair or their sense of style hurts trans women- especially black trans women who have been told their hair is "too much" or "too unnatural" for white people or that their fashion is 'outlandish' or 'why would you dress like that if you wanted to pass'?
When you tell transmascs and trans men that they aren't a part of the community because they have or have access to male privilege, you are ignoring and isolating and alienating every trans woman and girl and femme who cannot give up their safety in order to transition.
Even things like claiming [slurs] or (generic experiences, eg. Programmer Socks) are "only for trans women"... You're also isolating and framing out trans women who don't like skirt go spinny, who don't care for thigh highs, who aren't in love with BlΓ₯jah or can't afford one. (Also a non small number of trans women "reclaim" intersexist slurs because the fetishistic view of an intersex person is "someone with both" which is incorrect but has always been first and foremost about intersex people. To say you can't reclaim trans-specific slurs, but I can reclaim intersex-specific slurs is hypocritical.) It's also probably really alienating to cafab or camab and intersex trans women who grew up being called 'h*rm-' and shit, who have been referred to as 'irl f*tas' or shit, y'know.
It SHOULD just be enough to also support your brothers and siblings, but you are also proving yourself to be unsafe for your own community.
You are now the equivalent of the cis lesbian saying "All men suck, they should all die" in front of queens and transfemmes. Even if the idea of "men" doesn't encompass you, it still hits strays because that's the same shit that has been used against you time and time and time and time again. A cis lesbian saying "all men should die" is about an hour of targeted TikToks away from radical feminism... A trans lesbian isn't exactly much better. The red pill appeals to anyone it can. (There are legal immigrants and black people who voted in America's current Head Of Shit. There are "Gays For Trump" and even "Lesbians For Trump.")
People don't want to be around when that hatred and violence you direct towards others is going to turn around and hit them.
