Just an ordinary fangirl

Whenever I watch Sungjae on Master In The House, I noticed how Sungjae likes to point out a personality trait/habit of the ‘master’ that he finds inspiring and admirable. While I initially thought that it was just an affectionate form of flattering others, I realised that he is very introspective. He will reflect on his attitude and his wish to change his way of thinking~ 

During my lowest moments, I would turn to BTOB. Their songs often accompanied me through dark nights... so thank you for being a part of my youth, 7TOB 

I’ve been wanting to get this out of my system and I feel it is timely for me to do so with the recent controversies surrounding some of my favourite groups/members...

Idols are not responsible for their fans’ decisions just like how fans are not responsible for their idols’ actions/words. If a fan failed to complete his/her assignment on time as he/she chose to stream the latest comeback/watch vlive, the idol is not to be blamed. Similarly, if an idol’s words/actions rubbed people the wrong way, the fan is not obliged to clean up the mess or ‘shield them’ from the online vitroil. You are responsible for your own words/actions and the repercussions that could arise from that (in this case we have to keep in mind that public figures received more scrutiny for their thoughts/behaviours than most people). 

Here’s the problem: life is complex — people can have different views/opinions on a matter, and there are definitely grey areas (so we shouldn’t fall for binary fallacies). 

Let’s say an idol swore on camera when he/she mistakenly thought that the broadcast has not started yet. If you were not the kind of person who enjoy cussing their hearts out, you would less likely see him/her as favourably as before. Would you then (1) join the XXXXisoverparty campaign on social media, (2) lash out on others who criticised the idol as ‘HYPOCRITES’ and ‘PETTY NETIZENS’, or (3) choose to remain silent (by not addressing the issue on social media platforms)?

More often than not, I fall in the 3rd category. Even though I keep mum over a heated issue, it is not to be interpreted as supporting what the idol did or having zero opinion on the act (although I would not deny if it could be a coping mechanism). There are a lot of things that I have to consider such as the context of where it happened, the cultural nuance and the person’s intention behind the message (almost impossible to know without clarifying with the individual). 

There’s something so uncomfortable whenever someone yells “YOU MESSED UP” to a celebrity all over their social media. It’s like you knew someone would accidentally knock a glass bottle off the table as it is placed right at the edge and you’re waiting for the moment to grab everyone’s attention by screaming “IT’S BROKEN!”. As if you have never broken anything before or felt humiliated/embarrassed in a crowd. 

[Well Done Today]Henry

“It’s warm”.

“You’ll feel warmer if you come closer”.

“This is just warm enough”.

“How can human get by without lying? Only angels can. Did you tell me everything?" 

"Do you know the hedgehog story? They felt so cold, so they huddled together, and they pricked each other, so they scattered. But then, they felt so cold, so they decided to huddle back together. Rather than braving the cold on their own, they decided that being pricked by each other was more bearable, don’t you think?"

1. I had always seen Kim Minkyu’s friend-turned-foe as an antagonist. However, there was a twist. Their relationship became complicated because of a mere misunderstanding. It made me think that while one can feel so sure that he/she is the victim, one has to keep in mind that he/she might have wrongly assessed a situation. It’s impossible to know the full picture so we can never (accurately) fully assume others’ true intentions, feelings and actions towards us.

2. Everyone has his or her own struggles that we may not know of. Kim Minkyu seems to have it all as he was immensely wealthy and powerful. But almost no one knew (except for his doctor) that he is allergic to human contact. When Jo Jin Ah had a bitter encounter with Kim Minkyu when they first met (again because of a misunderstanding), she perceived that Minkyu was mean and heartless. Little did she know then that Minkyu was aloof to protect himself from the allergy. Minkyu could not trust Jo Jin Ah simply because of a misunderstanding until she regained his trust by returning his lost necklace (which she had accidentally taken).

3. Having trust is the first step in building a relationship. Minkyu opened up his feelings and problems to Aji 3 for the first time after living alone for 15 years because he could trust her. Once the trust is broken, it only becomes harder to love the person any longer. Minkyu turned into an asocial as he had a childhood trauma after he overheard people plotting to take advantage of him, thus making it hard for him to trust others later in life.

4. Make someone feel worthy and special.

“You made me realise I’m someone valuable. You were my friend. You treated me like a treasure, and you made me feel special.” (Ep 18)

Knowing that you are being loved by others is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Always express how much you appreciate your loved ones. It could be the only thing that gives a person a reason to breathe and a purpose to live especially when times are rough.  

“One person is enough. Just one person is enough to keep a person going.” (Ep 18)

BtoB- Everything's Good (Ilhoon's Outro) Eng Lyrics

Sometimes I wanna love myself

2013 Beautiful Show DVD - 괜찮겠니 (Will You Be Alright)