My Daily thoughts...

Over the course of my life, I have been rejected more times than I can count. It’s not a good feeling and it would honestly feel better to be stabbed in the liver than to be rejected. But over the many years of being rejected by many people, I have gained some sort of insight into the technicality behind it and how to deal with it:

1. Rejection ties in perfectly with ego. The first time I was rejected I thought that was it. I was heart broken and my self esteem was nowhere to be found after that. Then I got rejected a second time by someone I didn’t really cared about. The thing was that it still hurt. I learned after a couple of rejections that the root of my wounds was my ego. I started to slowly get over my ego by replacing the word “rejecting” with the word “upgrading.” This way I was able to look at the situation from a brighter perspective and instead of saying, “he rejected me,” I could say “he gave me an opportunity to upgrade.”

2. Never look back once you realize that something better is coming. For me, not looking back was the way to go, and if there was something to look back to, I would get rid of it. Although this works for me, I understand that everyone is different and deleting old pictures and memories can be easier said than done. Trust me honey, I KNOW how hard it is to take off your ex from Instagram but once you do it I promise it will be much better!

3. Let anger play a part just for a little bit. This ties in with my previous “step” if you will. I am obviously not going to throw away any memories while being sad and nostalgic, but when I let my anger come out just for a second, it gives me the strength to cut that person out of my life.

4. Find the strength in the little things. Moving on from rejection can and will probably be hurtful, but strength and confidence in yourself is the only thing that will get you through it. For me I noticed that I found strength while giving back to my community. I love helping people and in turn I start feeling better about the fact that I was just rejected by someone who did not know how to appreciate me and my kindness.

5. Forgive and forget. This has always been the hardest step for me and reason being was that I didn’t feel like there was anything that deserved my forgiveness. Bitterness will kill you honey and it will potentially keep you for loving ever again to the fullest. Forgiving someone who doesn’t ask for forgiveness is quite difficult but it’s sadly part of what will get you through it. At the end of the day, just remember that you will get your happy ending so what’s that compared to forgiving someone who messed up greatly.