Hey guys, lately Iāve been feeling very insecure/ in self doubt/ uncertain and I hate it!
I have realized this is something I usually do in my daily life, relationships and even at work! I often start thinking that I donāt deserve it and I give up before I even give myself a chance to try.Ā I am about to try to find out how I can change this and I thought Iād share since Iām sure there is someone somewhere is also going through the same thing. Please let me know on the comments how you have overcome..
I have been comparing myself to others, yes im going to be very open because I really want to find out about my issues and why I always get into unhealthy lifestyles and end up depressed and feeling stupid or unworthy. SoĀ I started with the meaning ..
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If you wonder why you are insecure, there is probably a time in your childhood where someone significant, or someone you valued, made you feel not good enough. You internalized it and carried it around like a backpack.Ā The bigger unfortunate, the same person set you on a course to find people who disapprove so you convince them that you are worthy of love. So I started trying to figure out who made me feel not good enough in my childhood .. I grew up thinking I wasnāt pretty enough, smart enough, sporty enough, social enough, rich enough ā¦ I guess growing up isnāt as easy as most people think.
āBut while itās quite normal to have feelings of self-doubt once in a while,Ā chronicĀ insecurity can sabotage your success in life and can be particularly damaging to your intimate relationships.ā So basically I realized it wasnāt just jealousy when I snoop my partners phone haha.. anyway thatās nonsense , what if you find what youāre looking for in there? stay away from peoples privacy!
The majority of insecurity is based on irrational thoughts and fearsāthat you are not good enough, that you will not be OK without a partner,Ā that you will never find anyone better,Ā that you are not truly lovable.Ā These are the BIG lies we tell ourselves, so STOP! right now and get over yourself. Stop feeling like you are not worthy because everyone deserves to be happy, You are the only one responsible for your lifeĀ and everything will eventually work out no matter how tough the process may be for you.
When youĀ feelĀ insecure, you are often focused on something you feel is lacking about you;Ā In order to feel more secure in a relationship it helps to know what you have to offer to the other person. You donāt have to be rich or beautiful to offer somethingāpersonalityĀ characteristics are far more important to the overall qualityĀ of a relationship. Think about the traits you have as a personāyou may be nice, trustworthy, funny, kind, or a good communicator.
Also you can do this exercise: Keep a pad of paper next to your bed and every night before you go toĀ sleep, write down three things you liked about yourself that day. In the morning, read the list before you get out of bed. Keep adding 3 new things to your list everyday to keep the list growing.Do this everyday for 30 days.
Stop thinking you are so important.Ā The problem many insecure people have is they, and I hate to sound mean because I donāt mean it this way, think too much of themselves. Truthfully, humans are pretty self-absorbed creatures.
Ask yourself why you donāt deserve the same piece of the pie.Ā Insecure people donāt think enough of themselves to think other people like them or that they deserve good things. If you are insecure, you should figure out what it is about yourself that you donāt think is worthy of love or good things.
Finding people in your life who are selfish and only take, without providing you feelings of security, only further adds fuel to your insecure fire. Choose people who arenāt self-absorbed and give back as much as they take
Hope I have helped? Any more tips for me? reply on the comments and tell me what you think .. thanks and have a lovely day.
Here are the few sources of info:
http://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/better-life/why-am-i-so-insecure
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201512/the-3-most-common-causes-insecurity-and-how-beat-them
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201501/one-exercise-sure-make-you-feel-better-about-yourself
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201609/4-ways-stop-feeling-insecure-in-your-relationships
Insecurity Hey guys, lately I've been feeling very insecure/ in self doubt/ uncertain and I hate it!
