krpadvice

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admins/member struggles

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I feel like this discord group is very cliquey and they pick and choose based on the popularity of the character. If it’s the ‘most hated’ idol or a second generation kpop group, they immediately turn away. I feel like sometimes the admins pick their favorites and their favorites ‘kiss ass to them’ as well. I really don’t like that and it’s very annoying how I have to work ‘harder’, putting myself out there more while others seem to have it easy because they are liked by the admins.

hi nonnie! i had to take an unexpected break for the past few months but am making a soft return here! not sure if you’re around to see this but if you do, hope it helps in anyway :)

i personally haven’t been in many discord rps or long enough to experience the cliquey side of dc. i’ve heard of it being more common among discord spaces though so there must be some truth to it. all to say, you’re definitely not the only one to go through that experience. 

i’m not too sure what falls under ‘most hated’ idol for faceclaims since there are so many different reasons an idol might be hated at any given moment. but for second gen idol faceclaims, i can understand the frustration around newer groups receiving more interaction simply because they’re the new shiny thing. in my opinion, this is more a reflection of the industry bleed into fandom spaces - it’s always about the next thing and new trends which equals flocking to what’s considered fresh. this might be more true for discord or gen au than other platforms - don’t take my word for it. but in my experience, mewe and tumblr oc spaces don’t seem to face issues around faceclaim generation as much. that’s not to say they’re entirely exempt from interaction biases and issues (ie. male vs female debate). 

to get to the point, i think at the end of the day, if you feel like you’re putting in more effort to try to get interactions because that’s how tightly knit the cliques are it might be better to just jump ship. if you’re not already on other platforms, learning them might be frustrating at first but it might beat going through what you’re already dealing with. 

props to you for trying out something new though! as a small reminder, people get comfortable with what they know. it might promise smoother interactions and easier plotting but it really does make it hard to foster a welcoming space where a community can build. in times where you’re faced with unwilling participants, make it easier for yourself - reevaluate what you want out of the experience and go from there. 

for example, i’m the kind of person who doesn’t really like making sns posts (saying it politely). that’s why i usually avoid mewe rps. those sns posts imo don’t bring much value to the rp. they can show some sides of your character, sure, but they’re not that interesting to work with.

on the other hand, i also don’t enjoy writing 10 paragraphs (even though i can!) because there’s usually more filler than actual character or plot development.

so that brings me to the question: why can’t we have some kind of golden middle where the plot actually moves (because everyone wants to roleplay so badly and ends up promising, so they never post tomorrow like the anon mentioned) and still keep some sns culture but without those limitations as in the basic mewe rp rules?

why do we have to write a lot just to “prove” literacy and push the plot forward when it barely moves anyway because everyone is so busy?

sorry, this is a mess, but it is what it is

hi nonnie! this is a major late reply. looks like i drafted it but wasn’t able to get to you 😅 but if you’re still around, here’s my take!

i totally get where you’re coming from on sns posts. that was pretty much my initial impression on them too - is that they don’t offer much for plot or character development. and honestly, from my perspective and how i’ve seen them used - there’s kind of two sides to it. it’s an sns post and like real life, we’re not always posting a monumental life development moment when we’re making posts. but for rp and the sake of plot and interaction? there’s so much more people could be doing with their sns posts to encourage interaction and driving plot forward. i think a lot of people just don’t because there’s so much around wanting to keep things simple to meet ac or secret/mystery that gets mixed with ic/ooc knowledge. and we all know how quickly those things can spin out of control. 

then there’s also your point about writing which i get. i think when we see the word literacy, we try to push ourselves to write to prove the effort of maintaining literacy. but then it becomes a lot of filler. i don’t think i’ve been in an rp where admins are actually expecting 5+ paragraphs when they say literate - so it’s always felt more self-imposed in my personal experience. which i think really highlights the stage rp is in. a lot of us are trying to keep the practice of writing and literacy alive but what we’ve kind of done instead is compensated for the lack/sns takeover by doing a lot of filler. so it might really just be that we need to shift into trial and error, testing out different ways to write and keep plot moving forward whether that be more headcanoning to get through filler/meaty parts, timeskips, maybe even being okay with ooc posts detailing ic timeline to keep things moving forward. 

hi nonnie! as someone who really enjoys the literate aspect of roleplay, i completely understand you!

i think that the culture of krp has shifted a lot within the past few years and unfortunately, literacy level and engagement has suffered for it. i agree that it does have to do with members of the community but to an extent.

even just three years ago, there were a lot of roleplays around that were really grounded in being writing-centric. if you think about it, three years ago from now is almost the amount of time that an average university student spends in undergraduate. people had more time to write because their responsibilities were very different compared to what their responsibilities might be now. so, i do think that part of literacy disappearing is that a lot of people just don't have the time and availability to write as often as they might have in the past.

of course, this isn't the case for everyone. on the other hand, i think the switch in platforms has been a big part of losing literacy in roleplays. especially with mewe based roleplays, there are more options for activity such as making sns posts or fulfilling a comment quota. now, this does work in favor of allowing those who are too busy to write consistently to still be part of the community, but at the cost of - say it with me - writing.

hi nonnie!

oh, let's see - i think there's so many tips that can be given for a first time admin. some things might change depending on if you're going to work alone and which platform, but i'll offer 5 tips for now to try and cover an overall/general considerations!

hi nonnie! awesome to hear those are things you agree with! i totally get you - i have a soft spot for tumblr and enjoy seeing the roleplays that people are putting effort into opening here. it really sucks that it seems the platform has kind of taken steps backward in terms of how easy it was to write and roleplay on here when you compare how it is now to even just like five years ago.

hi nonnie!

through the past few years, i’ll say from my observation it seems that the preference for roleplaying on tumblr has shifted towards mewe and discord. i can’t say for sure what the reasons behind this might be, but i think app accessibility and chatting features might have really had a hand in this. mewe allows direct and group dms with chat features that gives space for ic interactions to simulate texting or face to face conversations. the same can be said for discord tuppers which allows users to switch between multiple muses at once! mewe and discord as apps also allows a little more focus on establishing a closed and dedicated space for the roleplay versus tumblr.

though not as popular or in demand, it seems there is still a good portion of the community that prefers tumblr as a roleplaying platform considering the roleplays that are active and those that recently popped up. if you are someone who prefers tumblr, i would say not to fret since community members are putting in the work to keep the tumblr side of roleplay alive!

hello nonnie, this was such a sweet little ask to return to! thank you for the new year message <3 i hope that you also had a happy new year and wishing the same to those of the community too!

they are a fantasy au, original character, mewe-based roleplay set with a premise around the seven sins and those in hell. they have a bright community with members who are very active in their group chats. everyone is very friendly and writing occurs on a regular basis!

hello! here is a small shout out to celebrate @yongkrp's official opening!

if you were here when the initial interest check was made for a dragon lore inpsired rp or missed it in tags, and are interested in learning more, head on over to their blog to check them out!

okay, i’m exaggerating, but only a little. what is this? can we stop acting like victims over nothing? genuinely, what is going on.

hi nonnie! although we're not specifically advertised as a traditional vent blog, it's totally okay to submit any frustrations you're currently dealing with or thinking over! as long as it's not demeaning or insulting, there's no issue in sharing what little grievance you might have.

i'm a little confused on what you mean by victims over nothing in this context.

in my experience, i've always taken these tags in a lighthearted way! it's really easy for people to get lost in ooc talk while trying to focus on plotting. i think that using the tags for as an unofficial ooc ping works in favor of not having to fill someone else's dms with something small like confirming if a starter is okay. i think it also helps people feel out vibes a little with each other - like leaving little notes if you're not familiar with each other/close enough/or worried about sending too many ooc messages.

on the other hand, i think this could also be a habit of those with some degree of anxiety - and by this i mean in reference back to wanting to confirm that something is okay but not wanting to feel like they're starting an unnecessary conversation just for that. this is something that i've gone through so that's how i rationalize using tags in that sense!

typically, i've taken tags used like this as rp etiquette/courtesy for taking more time than expected to post a starter/response because that's what i usually see. i know you said you're exaggerating a bit with your examples, but if the tags you're seeing do dive a little more into mentioning specific ooc circumstances, i can see how that can be off-putting since not everyone enjoys seeing things like that!

hello nonnie! thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and encouragement as you work towards opening your own roleplay! i think it's always nice to hear what other admins might be thinking since it's really easy to feel alone in what we're feeling or worrying about, especially if you're working on things alone!

thank you for chiming in nonnie!

hey nonnie, i hear you!

i definitely understand the frustration behind wanting to see what the community wants and trying to create a place that people will actually be interested in so that it can have a fighting chance.

on the other hand, i think i understand the community’s lack of engagement. putting interest checks out there and trying to gather responses is definitely a good way to start, but it’s not much of a promise or guarantee that something will come to fruition. i also don’t think you should let the lack of engagement there reflect what opening your own roleplay might look like. i think i’ve previously highlighted how the dynamics between admins and members has shifted over the years because of how many roleplays that will open and then be abandoned without notice, which upsets members because of the work they also put into learning the guidelines of the space, how the world works, and on top of that the muse they created and hoped to write no longer having a space to be explored. we’re kind of stuck in this perpetual finger pointing circle because admins aren’t getting engagement from members while members are preemptively waiting for the admins to drop the ball.

that said, i think this might be why you might not be getting the engagement you hope to see. my advice would be, choose a premise that you want to do and skip waiting on the community response (since you’ve already tried that)! in the long run, when things get hard or start to feel drab for you as the admin, you want a premise that you’re going to want to keep running even through quiet lulls or hard moments. lastly, more so as a outside perspective, i think what could help stave off the bitterness and possible build up of resentment towards the community (paying no dust) is to consider why you’re really running the space. if you run a roleplay made as much for you as the community (and keep this in mind), you might feel better about trying to keep a place alive because what it means for you versus opening a space completely for the community and then placing all your expectations on them to enjoy it. i’m not saying this is what you’re doing, but just laying some points as a side by side in hopes that’ll help you break down your own thoughts and feelings about if you want to give opening a roleplay a shot still!

there’s no denial that adminning is hard work! especially when you want to write in the space you created too. at the end of the day, i would say, do what you want and then pivot and adjust if the idea isn’t grabbing anyone’s interest. i do think once you have a blog up and running where people can see something tangible, you’re much likely to get more engagement and expression of interest as you pull things together.

oou an angel vs demons roleplay sounds super exciting and different from what i've seen around for a while! excited to see what you come up with and thank you for providing the platform!

hi nonnie!