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honestly you all are so annoying because motherhood IS interesting but fandom people are simultaneously obsessed with deciding that every woman has motherly qualities and completely disinterested in actually exploring motherhood as a role that informs a character. I do think exploring a character being a mother can be wildly interesting if they are canonically one, but because of misogyny, people just view motherhood as a totally unremarkable naturalized state that all women must inhabit!

I've reblogged this before as-is, but have been thinking about it more lately due to my attempts to conceive ... Actually, to me fandom on Tumblr seems singularly obsessed with declaring that no female characters that are remotely interesting would be mothers, to the point that I only tend to see anything about ships having kids very rarely and when I do, nearly always it's from m/m perspectives (sometimes in fantasy contexts, sometimes just "this is what I want so it happens"). It seems to have become law that women who are at all driven or tough or smart Wouldn't Do That, which on the one hand gets around the sexist idea that every woman MUST want to have kids while on the other being sexist in that motherhood can never be explored in fandom, as exploring it is inherently suspicious.