Izzyyy

"you can put your arms down, if you want"

"go ahead and put your socks and shoes back on, if it tickles too much"

"oh is it that bad? Feel free to get up and get dressed."

like, you spend months trying to uplift your brothers because so many others are treating them like shit, only for some of the people you considered your allies to turn around and start being transmisogynistic. talking about sex based oppression, making fun of transfems for their usernames, kink-shaming them, pedo-jacketing them, the list goes on. you can’t feel safe because even though you don’t agree with the transfems this transmisogyny is being directed towards, besides the fact that it’s obviously disgusting to be transmisogynistic in any scenario, it shows you that all it takes is for people to disagree with you about something or for you to be wrong about something, and that same transmisogyny will be directed at you. you see the few other transfeminine people who have also been trying to uplift transmasculine people get harassed out of these spaces that you thought were safe.

so you try and get out of the discourse. spend more time with non-serious stuff. you look at trans memes, follow other trans women who have similar interests to you, but the discourse follows you.

you try and find posts about transmisogyny, the suffocating oppressive force that is obvious in the way the majority of people treat you every single day. you try and brush off tme/tma usage because, sure, its not perfect, but we need terminology to talk about this stuff, and most of the posts you see are generally accurate. but then the vitriol starts coming in. ‘tranandrobros’ this and ‘tMRA’ that. posts implying or explicitly saying you must be tme if you disagree them. and you sigh, and try and block and move on, but the posts just keep coming.

so you give up. stop following the transfem blogs who are putting this stuff on your feed, but by the time you’ve done that you barely have any left, and almost none of them talk about transmisogyny at all, let alone often or in depth.