Kind of a Fag

I don’t believe in forcing anything. There’s no need to keep the key away from the sub, freezing it in an ice cube or anything like that. Chastity must exist out of desire, not prohibition.

Reaching that level of self-control and willpower takes time and effort, sure. But when it comes, it’s so rewarding… you stop fighting and start enjoying. You learn a new, more pleasant way to live.

Haha. Yes I am boy. You're sure as hell not going to fuck me.

This is so hot. I never knew I could be so submissive and so sexual at the same time.

When I cage you, that will be your new normal faggot.

OMG. How did you know.

All I had to do was look at you, faggot.

and i get that maybe that’s just the dynamic (which i’m still trying to grasp), but is it true as a whole? do doms actually view people who are submissive as lesser beings in play and/or day-to-day life? i know the right thing to do is talk to your partner about it before participating in anything, and maybe it’s just me, but i think feeling not valued/not respected would make me feel unsafe, even if i know it’s just a persona.

Hi anon thank you for your ask.

Actual good Doms absolutely do not look down on subs whatsoever.

Stylistically, some Doms (myself included) do a lot of degradation, making their subs feel small, objectified, and reduced in value as part of a scene. This isn't reflective of how those subs are viewed and is instead meant to be erotic, a way to create a specific feeling of sexual dominance and superiority in a scene. Again, this isn't reflective of the actual relationship between the Dom and the sub and shouldn't be indicative of how the sub is actually viewed. Aftercare, with lots of comfort and reassurance is meant to help differentiate between the scene personas that each participant adopts and the way they actually view each other.

Personally, as a Dom who does lots of humiliation and degradation, I can say that I absolutely adore submissives. They're wonderful and lovely and some of my favorite moments with subs are during aftercare when I'm just being affectionate after a rough scene. BDSM is a form of human connection and it's amazing that there are people on the other side of the / who are interested in the same things as me. If a Dom doesn't have that sort of adoration, I don't think they're much of a Dom at all personally and I wouldn't consider them a safe partner.

Simultaneously, some abusive people still exist within the bdsm community and utilize the title of Dom to shield their shitty behavior. (There are also abusive people who identify as subs but that's not super relevant to this point). Actual abusers certainly view others as less than them, but they aren't reflective of what domming is meant to be, just bad people who deserve to be shunned for their behavior.

You mentioned that you wouldn't feel good in a scene where you don't feel valued. That's perfectly valid. Degradation just isn't for everyone, and that's perfectly okay. Plenty of Doms and subs prefer exclusively praise or teasing praise without the heavier humiliation you can often find on Tumblr.

Pamper your bottom and treat him like royalty when you’re done with him! I just experienced this, and honestly it was one of the most amazing afternoons I’ve ever had.

We talked a little on Grindr and he asked me to come over, and we pretty much got straight to the sex. He fucked me extremely hard for almost an hour, came inside me twice, spit in my mouth, choked me a little, slapped me, squeezed my balls, and peed in my mouth when he was done. It was painful and aggressive and amazing. Then, he very slowly and gently jacked me off, and he didn’t break eye contact for the entire like 10 minutes it took for me to cum. The whole time, his face was right in front of mine and if I closed my eyes he’d tell me to open them, and he said things like “you’re so fucking cute” and “cum for me, pretty boy” and right before I came he said “think about all the cum I just put in that beautiful little ass”. That last one set me off. 😅

We laid there for a little while just talking, and then he got his massage oil and gave me the most amazing foot massage, and then he went to his kitchen and brought back a bowl of watermelon and fed it to me. It was a little messy and wet, and he would just lick the juice off my chin and neck.

They both came in me, they used one of my toys on me, and the “friend” he mentioned was extremely rough. 😅 He’s pretty muscular, and he’s about 6’ tall. My friend is only about 5’10. I’m really into rough sex, but I didn’t really expect it because it was the new guy’s first time with me. But he didn’t ask, and I thought it was hot that he was just doing whatever he wanted so I didn’t say anything.

I should explain that my friend and I have only ever had really rough sex. Like choking, slapping, spitting, things like that, and his friend was really into it. They took turns holding me down while I pretended to resist (don’t worry, it was consensual!). He kept spitting in my mouth and slapping me, and after they both came he shoved one of my bigger dildos in me and was really rough with it while he sucked me. It hurt, but also felt really good? It’s hard to explain. He kept pulling it out and making me lick their cum off of it. 😅

At one point, he pushed my head down on my friend’s dick and just held me there for like 10 seconds while I was choking. Another time, he completely picked me up off the bed and sort of threw me on the floor, then spread my legs and shoved his fingers in me. It was all very aggressive, and honestly some of the best sex I’ve had in a long time. 🥵

I came in his mouth while he was using the toy on me, and he spit it in my mouth and made me swallow it. When we were done, they both made me lick the sweat off of their armpits, asses, and balls (love love love!!!!!), and then we sat there and talked for a few minutes before they left. The new guy was a surprisingly nice guy. 😂