clem

oh god there’s a lot to unpack here!

firstly, i think it’s important to acknowledge that nobody on tumblr owes you their time and energy. i think a lot of men feel entitled to women’s time, caregiving, and energy on here. and sure, if you’re entering into a serious, committed dynamic with someone, of course that requires time and consistency. but in the early stages of getting to know someone, unfortunately, no one owes you anything. and a woman shouldn’t have to justify her “no” for it to be respected.

secondly, if “kinky abdl girls are super flaky with communication” they probably have a reason. there are a lot of predatory abdl men on here with no concept of boundaries or consent.

i think pushing the narrative that abdl women are flaky is lacking nuance and dangerous tbh. it’s diminishing the fact that women often are treated like kink dispensers on here, and it’s implying that women must have a justification to stop responding to someone.