But, even if youāre not fat, if youāre a woman, youāre probably still so caught up with your toxic weight shit that you canāt even see straight. During my working life I canāt tell you how many times Iāve been part of these ridiculous workplace group diets. Almost all of the participants have been women. Sometimes they even try to bribe one another with money. They all put in ten dollars on the first week and whoever loses the most wins the pool at the end of 4 months, or whatever it is. Look, Iām like you. Iāve done it too. And at a perfectly normal, healthy weight Iāve done it. All because of a sick, shitful, ugly little voice in the back of my head that tells me I ought to be smaller.
And thatās the rub, right there. Exactly why do we want to be smaller? What exactly is the appeal of being smaller? How does it benefit us? Does it make us better mothers? Better students? Better lovers? Better artists? Scientists? Friends? Does it make us more badass badasses?
No, no, no, no, no. You must see that it doesnāt. It doesnāt do anything but make us smaller.
Babies and puppies are small. So are dimes and Skittles. Youāre a fucking woman. A woman! You are entitled to occupy as much fucking space as you like with your awesomeness, and you better be suspicious as fuck of anybody who tells you differently.
Why, ladies? Why must we continue to whittle ourselves down? Who is it for? What is it for? You can walk through a certain aisle at the pharmacy or at the grocery store and see the language of diminishment all over the packaging for weight loss aids of all kinds. āShrink your waist.ā āLose inches off your thighs.ā āSlim down.ā āGet skinny.ā
How about āGrow your mind.ā āIncrease your confidence and productivity.ā āBeef up your knowledge.ā āEnlarge your scope of asskicking.ā
Thatās a valid message for women and girls: grow, expand, branch out, open up, get bigger, wider, faster, stronger, better, smarter. Go up not down. Get strong, not skinny.
You are not here to get smaller. You are not here to have a thin waist and thighs. You are not here to disappear. Youāre here to change the world! Change the fucking world, then! Forget about ālosing a few pounds.ā Think about what you could be gaining instead.
