“I don’t understand why we continually hurt ourselves by choosing people who only make us feel small. We go back to the ones who wrecked our hearts and caused us pain. We confuse history with chemistry and falling in love with a concept of time. It’s a way of thinking that traps you in mediocrity. We replay a highlight reel of moments of bliss to justify the pain. We sell ourselves short. What happened to our 5-year-old confidence? We believed we were superheroes and princesses, and we dreamed of being grand when we grew up. Now that we’ve grown, how much have we settled for? We go to school to get a degree in something we don’t care for because society tells us what good majors will give us jobs that pay a livable wage. We lose passion because we are influenced to think we can’t find the balance between loving life and living it. We lose our innocence, and we lose that childlike quality of trying to be grand. What happened to the idea of romance and true love? What about the grand romances we saw in Disney movies? Why has love become something we settle for among all the other things? In relationships, there’s always one who molds the other. The other person will start even thinking like the other, and a total imbalance occurs. In this imbalance, you have one who controls the thoughts and actions of both, while the other person just quietly lets his or her partner shine. That is not love. We believe the length of a relationship equals the amount of love we have for someone. I don’t believe in that equation. A person who believes in true love chases the feelings dreams are made of. There is no perception of time, there are no broken hearts with the right one and no one is outshining the other. The chaser of love values connection, not the idea true love equals the most amount of time you spend with someone. True love is more than time spent. This generation loves the person who can be shown off on Instagram. Man Crush Mondays and Women Crush Wednesdays are a part of the highlight reel of fictitious images that portray something grand. But, this superficial love is one I see often. Why are we so obsessed with the portrayal of a relationship rather than the actual relationship? I get it; being happy is scary, and being comfortable is easy. You fall into a pattern of life, and you realize you’re only with someone because you feel like so much time was invested. You won’t get hurt, and you don’t have to try very hard. That person is always just there. The chase is done, or maybe it never even happened. Love is when your heart has been broken, and someone gives you part of his or her own heart to fix yours. We confuse history with chemistry. People don’t change, so we romanticize the one we adore. In reality, you are only fooling yourself. It’s a cycle that will only leave you heartbroken. If history is the only thing that binds you two together, the time spent together will feel like an obligation. Choose the one who makes a positive impact on your heart and soul. Choose the one who grows with you and doesn’t extinguish your fire. Choose someone who is your best friend. Find someone who compliments you and doesn’t complete you. You are whole on your own. You will not find yourself in another person. Fill yourself up with your own dreams, goals, success and love. True love will find you. Some love stories aren’t amazing novels. Some are short stories. That doesn’t make them any less filled with love, and that doesn’t mean the short time spent together wasn’t real. Keep your view of the world through the eyes of a child. They have an innocence about them that is unpretentious and very real. It seems as you grow into adulthood we lose that innocent way of thinking that anything is possible. Once you lose it, you start talking through past tenses of memories. Keep that spirit alive, and keep that mindset when discovering love. There is no equation for true love, but don’t fall into mediocrity and comfort with the concept of time.”
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