so i was going through some of the daud posts here and sometimes you ship him with ppl??? idk if you know this but that makes ace ppl really uncomfortable so if you could not do that thanks.
[For context, Daud is canonly asexual.]
Listen I'm ace. And rather a stereotype at that. I'm introverted, like space and cake, and I'm sex-repulsed. But not every asexual are these things.
Back in my day, circa 5 years ago, Asexuality was a spectrum, and news flash, it still is. The thing that I've noticed in the ace community is exactly what you're talking about. You're excluding people in your own damn community. There is one ace blog I still follow because of this. All the others started to slowly gatekeep, and although I'm still allowed in bc by sex drive is at a 0%, I do not count myself as part of their "community" because that's not what it is anymore. It's a bunch of gatekeepers with 0% sex drive, calling their old community members allosexuals (Those who experience the "traditional" type of sexual attraction.)
My advice? Follow other ace tags that are on the other sides of the spectrum. Look at other social media sites. Tumblr can really be a trash bin of unneeded discourse, and isn't always a great place for these things. Like, there are people on this site where I KNOW for a fact, they're gonna have a stroke if they go to a real pride bc they saw a masc person in a lesbian flag shirt. The "Pride" side of tumblr is slowly becoming narrow-minded and fighting with itself. But, what else did you expect when the terfs settle here and try the run the place?
As for the spectrum, here are the big players:
Asexual: An umbrella term, but also refers to those who experience no sexual attraction.
Gray-Asexual: Refers to those who feel very little sexual attraction.
Demisexual: Those who only feel sexual attraction after they've created a close bond to someone. This could vary from a couple of weeks, to months, or over a year.
Aromantic: An umbrella term separate from Asexuality, but often overlaps in many. Refers to people who experience little to no romantic attraction on a spectrum similar to Asexuality. Common labels are Aromantic, Gray-Aromantic, and Demiromantic.
Alloromantic: Those who feel the "traditional" type of romantic attraction.
Sex Repulsed: Refers to people that are repulsed by the thought of engaging in sex with anyone. Asexuals are not the only ones that can be sex repulsed.
Sex Neutral: Refers to those that do not have a preference of weather or not sex is part of the relationship. This may or may not come with extra boundaries, such as how frequent sex is part of the relationship. Asexuals are not the only ones that can be sex neutral.
Sex Preferable: Refers to people that prefer to have sex as part of the relationship. Fun fact, humans are so dumb, evolution or god had to make sex pleasurable for us to reproduce. There are also many who believe that sex is way symbol of trust, vulnerability, and unity. Like any ideals, it is up to interpretation, so do not press these beliefs onto others.
Queer-Platonic Relationship (QPR): Refers to a deep-rooted, committed, platonic relationship. Though they are common in the aro and ace communities, anyone can be part of a QPR.
So what does this all mean for shipping ace characters? Is this an excuse for fanfiction? No! And even if it is, who the fuck cares? Demisexuals, gray-aces, sex nuetral aces, sex preferable aces, and alloromantic aces exist in real life, and are just a part of the Asexual Spectrum as a 0% sexual attraction, sex-repulsed ace like myself! Ace characters being in relationships do not erase their sexuality, just as it wouldn't in real life. Like I said, one day, you will go to pride and you will either understand or have a stroke. I wouldn't recommend the stroke, my grandfather had one, so I urge you to accept diversity in the LGBT+ community.
As for Daud specifically, it doesn't say in lore where he lands on the spectrum, so hc away. Throw a couple of terms in there. Be creative. Personally, I hc him as sex-repulsed and demiromantic. As a little bonus, I hc Corvo as demisexual, and even hinted to it in that CurnCrow fic I did a while back.
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