Journal d'une Aro/Ace

Who else spent puberty onwards waiting for that ‘Eureka!’ moment when sex would suddenly become appealing?

Feels Good. Want More.

You can read Aces Wild on TAPAS!

after the huge amazing response I got from my ace!Jiang Cheng comic - all of the ace people saying how amazing it felt to be acknowledged, and all of the people who came to me saying that they hadn’t realised they were ace until they read the comic - I decided I wanted to make something for ace awareness week. it’s not quite as pretty or feelsy as the other comic, but there are so many people even within the LGBT+ community who just… genuinely do not understand asexuality, I figured even something basic would help :)

This week is Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week ! Or aro week for short

If you didn’t know, I’m aroace ✨

Something that’s been stressing me lately.

You don’t need romance to be complete! The idea that you need someone to complete you is amatonormative. Amatonormativity is the assumption that everyone is better off in an exclusive, romantic, long-term coupled relationship, and that everyone is seeking such a relationship.

So many times, I have had people ask me if I’m in a relationship and the assumption is that I’m unhappy because I’m not in one or that my life is on hold and unfulfilled until I get a romantic partner. Romance doesn’t complete you, doesn’t fulfill your life, or make you happy. You can be single and be happy! You dictate your happiness and not anyone else.

Let’s do away with single=unhappiness and romance=happiness. It’s harmful to everyone (but especially aromantic people who don’t feel romantic attraction and often, aren’t looking for a romantic relationship).

Here is the comic I made for ace awareness week this year (I apologise for grammar errors and my handwriting, I am not the best at spelling).

I’ve never really came out, because I felt I didn’t have to. Most of my family knows I am asexual and is accepting of it, though there are the ones who just don’t comment on it or see me as a lesbian (none of them know I’m nonbinary).

Due to lack of representation, I never really understood asexuality until I was in my mid-late teens, despite hearing about it when I was 14. I was lucky to grow up in quite supportive household when it came to being gay or bi. But it took me a long time to come to terms with my sexuality and be happy with who I am.

I find ace awareness week (and pride month) very important to me to help educate those that know little or nothing about it, and to help people who may be struggling to understand there is nothing wrong with them. I feel that if I had access to the information I now know when I was younger, then it would’ve been easier for me with discovering my identity.

I’m calling this segment